Can someone help me? I’m having trouble identifying the difference between ROCD with intrusive thoughts and feelings

My intrusive thoughts seems so real about me and my girlfriend breaking up even though I really love her and I don’t want to break up with her my intrusive thought make it seem so real and now I’m starting to have anxiety thinking if this is real or if this is my true feelings going to make me feel emotionless and numb and I don’t know what to do anymore.

cailinnflight

Date posted: Yesterday

Take a deep breath, the fact you say you love her and that you are so strung up on this is one of the biggest signs with ROCD that you still care. With that in mind OCD attacks things you care about most especially if there is doubt and uncertainty about it which every relationship has. Dealing with those strong emotions really drains you and can exhaust you super easily and super fast, something I find that helps me when I’m having a spiral (every other day or so) is going on an hour long walk and legit saying to yourself “I’m going to take a step back” so you can look over everything. Writing is also a great thing for OCD I used to do this often before I started getting more comfortable with my ROCD, this can be a list, a poem, journal entry on your feelings, etc. after one of those is done things tend to come with a little more clarity thoughts and feelings.

Mikey241

Date posted: Yesterday

@cailinnflight It’s just so scary because I don’t wanna lose her because of my mental health. I literally think about it as soon as I open my eyes till I close my eyes at night and I’m tired of it 😭

cailinnflight

Date posted: Yesterday

@Mikey241 Oh TRUST ME I get that feeling waking up with a strong sense of dread isn’t the best way to wake up or go to bed with. That worry that panic of something going wrong in the future, of being unsure of your feelings is so disturbing and like “omg if I really loved them I wouldn’t feel like this”. It’s only right you feel exhausted being in a state of panic for days if not months (in my case) drains the life out of you. Just know you have so many resources and every is here for you!!! You loving her is such a great sign that things (despite your anxiety) are right where they should be, you still want to be with her, to love her, have a possible future with her.

Mikey241

Date posted: Yesterday

@cailinnflight Yes, and gives me so much anxiety and fear and panic that these thoughts could be real, even though it’s just a thought 😞

cailinnflight

Date posted: Yesterday

@Mikey241 AND BOOOOOM that’s OCD for you not what you ACTUALLY feel, any slightly uncomfortable or uncertain thought get demolished by OCD creating the obsession part of it. It took me MONTHS to just get to the point where I’m not waking up with that dread feeling all the time (still do for example this morning) I learn to just live aside my OCD and learn it’s patterns like it’s an extension of this relationship always makes me feel like my emotions and worries are heard without seeking reassurance that everything will be fine or my feelings are 100% certain.

pureolife

Date posted: 17h

One key marker of an intrusive thought is that it feels incredibly urgent to attend to it. Like you need to solve it, analyze it, test it, refute it RIGHT NOW and not having clarity on it is incredibly anxiety provoking. A regular feeling is something you can just feel and then decide to focus on something else or not solve it pretty easily. It might feel bad but it doesn’t need to be immediately fixed.

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