Being a mom with OCD

Is it normal to feel like you need a break from your kid? And when you need or want that break, do you ever feel like you’re less patient with your kid? I love my son more than anything that’s ever existed in the world. He’s my best buddy. But sometimes I have thoughts like “man I could really use some time away”. I do go places with my friends sometimes. But the other night we were supposed to go out and drink and have a good time and just a super fun girls night. I was looking forward to it because that was going to be my break and my time to feel like me again outside of working and being a mom and a wife. Well, the night didn’t go as planned. We didn’t really have a good time and we basically just wasted our night bc none of us had any fun. So in a way, I feel like I didn’t get to have “my” time. So I feel like I’m still feeling that “I need a break” feeling. BUT my ocd is making me think that means I just don’t want my son at all. In reality, I know I absolutely adore him and would literally be lost without him. But those thoughts just keep coming. Like “maybe I’m just not meant to be a mom” or “you’re just tired of being a mom and you just don’t want this life anymore” ITS NOT TRUE. I don’t think so at least??? Ugh!! Making my stomach turn in KNOTS because sometimes ocd makes these thoughts hard to decipher. Idk guys. I guess I’m just venting and trying to make sense of it all. When really, it won’t ever make sense bc it’s ocd.

AllisonRojas

Date posted: 8h

I feel this way all the time 🥲 Sending you a hug 🩷

CarinaW

Date posted: 9h

All extremely normal, I think! I've dealt with similar situations for sure.

Cher54

Date posted: 9h

You love your son and was meant to be a mom. I can tell that by your text. Moms get burnt out but it doesn’t mean u don’t want them. U do need time to get away with just u or with friends but maybe going out and drinking with friends isn’t your thing anymore. If everyone didn’t have a good time, it sounds like all of ya’ll have matured and don’t want to do that. Maybe u all can go catch a movie or go shopping together. Don’t believe those negative voices, tell them Oh I see what you’re doing but I’m going down a different path and then go do something even if that means playing a game on your phone. You are a good person I can tell. ❤️

Cher54

Date posted: 8h

@Cher54 Also, when I have intrusive thoughts, I say I cast that down in the name of Jesus, but I’m a spiritually minded person, and therapist may not agree with me on that. But I think you can also say when you have a thought like that is, I’m not playing that game. I’m going to go over here and go down this pathway. Anyway, other people may have similar things that they say. But I hope this helps you. I have a lot of intrusive thoughts too so I am speaking to myself as well. ❤️

OCDisAwful1204

Date posted: 8h

@Cher54 I believe in Jesus too 🤍 sometimes my OCD tries to come after that also. But I know that Jesus is here with me also. It can be easy to feel lost in that though. Praying for you, that He is with you through your OCD journey and that He calms the storms in your mind. 🫶🏼

Cher54

Date posted: 7h

@OCDisAwful1204 Thank you so much. Calming the storms in your mind is a good way to put it. ❤️

ocd-meb

Date posted: 7h

I also feel this way all the time, you’re definitely not alone.

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