CristyS323
- Date posted
- Yesterday
Is 18 and 20 bad?
If the 20 is in college the 18 is in highschool but they met in public?? 20 turns 21 in a few months 18 turns 19 next year
🌻💐🌻💐
- Date posted
- Yesterday
I personally don’t think it’s a bad age difference.
CristyS323CristyS323
- Date posted
- Yesterday
@🌻💐 Handful of people say it’s fine on the Internet and there’s nothing wrong with it, the other handful says it’s predatory
gillteagilltea
- Date posted
- 22h
I think it depends on the person. I would probably find it weird but theres plenty of other people who wouldn't. It's technically legal so it's in a grey area I think.
CristyS323CristyS323
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- 22h
@gilltea I feel like a predator:( because some people say it’s really weird some people say it’s not a problem at all.
gillteagilltea
- Date posted
- 18h
@CristyS323 Well, what's your opinion? Maybe it would help to imagine them as different people? Sometimes when my friend asks for relationship advice but isn't sure of my answer, I repeat the question back as if I were the one in the situation, or a stranger was the one in the situation. Usually that helps put it into perspective, and I support her even if her conclusion was different than my own.
itssalitssal
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- 22h
if its making you feel bad i would cut it off. i was in a similar boat, vaguely. im also 20, 21 in two months. a few months ago i started watching nsfw videos of specifically 18 y/o’s. and i didnt think 18 in highschool was a big deal. but then i started to feel really guilty about it, and stopped the behavior completely. my ocd has completely latched onto this and caused me to spiral recently. personally ive come to see it in a grey area. i regret my decisions, i feel weird about them, and its just not for me.
CristyS323CristyS323
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- 22h
@itssal I just can’t really pinpoint why it’s making me feel bad. I have talked to people younger than me before( a few times throughout my life but I consistently talk to men older than me, it’s my preference ) never more than two years and it’s always made me feel weird and bad. I did tell the guy that because he stayed back a grade and he is going to be in high school for another year then I can’t continue speaking to him. I thought he was graduating this year type of 18. We literally didn’t get anywhere. All I did was give him my Instagram because he asked for it in public, and his birthday was literally the day of. I made him send me his ID which he had no problem doing, but I still cut it off. Like I said before, I don’t really know why I feel weird about it. It’s probably because of my OCD and also the stigma around age gaps. Also I’m mature for 20, so a guy that’s 18 is basically a baby. Also, when I watch NSFW content, all I really care about is if the person is 18 and up. I do try to avoid anyone that looks 18 because it makes me feel weird also. But from personal opinion, I don’t see anything wrong with the two-year age group. I think it just is a gray area because the teenager could still be in high school. If worried me giving him my Instagram makes me predatory or something
itssalitssal
- Date posted
- 21h
@CristyS323 queen then you’re good! u didn’t do anything wrong. its just ur ocd getting to you :)
CristyS323CristyS323
- Date posted
- 18h
@itssal Sorry for how long my reply was lol. U can see the overthinking in the msg
gillteagilltea
- Date posted
- 18h
@CristyS323 I agree with Sal, it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong :)
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