Has been a hard day for real event guilt today

Here is something I saw online which might help to change your mindset: Why do people have difficulty with self forgiveness – its because they confuse it with self justification. This would be an example: lets say we feel bad about someone we didn’t treat very nicely in the past or perhaps even back in childhood we might teased someone (who hasn’t done that) or maybe we were not the best employee at a job. Self justification is as follows: -oh it was a long time ago or -its no big deal everyone does that sometimes or - who cares other people do worse things This type of thinking causes deep inner conflict as it bothers our consciousnesses (as it should). Self forgiveness on the other hand is as follows: -ok that was wrong of me in the past, it was my error and I genuinely regret it. In the future I am going to strive to not repeat that same mistake and be a better person. However, I acknowledge that we as humans are highly imperfect and we ALL make mistakes (I am not alone here). Therefore I sincerely forgive myself and choose to move on as a better person with self respect and self love. This attitude acknowledges our mistakes (its not suppression, justification or denial). It allows forgiveness of self and others because we can understand that we are highly flawed beings - many of us have damaged and fragile psyches. We literally become better human beings as a result of acknowledging our mistakes and vowing not to repeat the same behavior – so how can that be bad? We must understand that as humans we can NEVER be perfect, so therefore perfection should never be the benchmark for our worthiness. Learning from mistakes is the only way that we can evolve our souls. Once we learn from our mistakes and have genuine remorse, there is no more need for suffering or punishment. If we were forever doomed for the mistakes and wrongdoings of our past, then what would be the point of existence at all because all of us would be doomed?? This is the basis of the concept of Grace. Feeling a lack of worthiness will only result in self sabotage. While feeling worthy and deserving will attract good circumstances and happiness. Learning from our mistakes (ie: sincerely changing for the better) and then forgiving ourselves and evolving our souls is the only way we can remove our unconscious self-hate, guilt and shame. Its the only way to live peacefully with ourselves.