Does anyone ever struggle with urges to confess things they've done. Things that are nobody's business but your own. Does amyone ever feel guilty like they need to confess?
Yes! A major part of my OCD since I was a kid was the confessional. It used to be my mom now its my wife. I didn't even realize until seeing a therapist that the confessing was a compulsion of the OCD. The guilt, shame, and the over all feeling of i'm the worst person ever. It would get so bad i had to confess to get relief. Now I understand that I should try to work through these things and only confess if I can't get past them. Medication has helped tremendously as well as therapy. You are not alone. I've been in your shoes before and kinda still am. Stay strong and keep up the good work.
Thank you for the support.
@TonyL76 Totally agree!! You got this!
Yep! It used to be constant and genuinely debilitating. Put a lot of strain on my friendships and such. But over time its become less and less, its rare I confess out of compulsion at least in comparison to before. I only do for extreme spirals that last a long time, like weeks or months on end. Which of course, still isn't good, but certainly better than before! I still struggle to tell what I want to share is by compulsion or not, but its trial and error sometimes
I feel the same, put a lot of strain on my friendships
And I struggle as well to tell what I want to share is by compulsion or not. I feel it's not, but I don't know if that's really the case
@staystrong_ From your wording id say go with what you feel. Since the idk sounds like ocd doubt. Sure you may be wrong, but its easier to take the leap and then learn after ^^ you never know
Yes! My poor husband has had to listen to me confess the most minor, seemingly ridiculous things!!
Yeah I go through this occasionally. I would start to feel like I was gonna die if I didn’t confess.
Oh yeah, I’m extremely thankful I have a loving and supportive wife who understands my OCD so I’ve confessed plenty of things and knows I hate the feeling of guilt so if something bad happens I’m up front about it. I also tell her my Harm OCD obsessions and she just laughs (but in a supporting way, not in a making fun of way). She knows pretty much everything about me haha so we joke about it
One interesting thing i have realized i am doing. If I confess something that I perceive is really bad and I get reassurance I start ranking the confessions from least concerning to most concerning. If another thought comes up that I feel i need to confess I look to see where it ranks against worse things I've allready confessed. This in turn has sometimes allowed me to say I don't actually need to confess this thought or story in my brain because it did not rank high enough. I hope this kinda makes sense.
Yes! I’ve had this issue since I was around 9-10 years old. I feel like every single thing I do has to be shared with a loved one, otherwise I’m a sneaky liar.
Confessing is a SUPER common OCD compulsion!!! You can get better with ERP therapy! Have you tried it?
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