are you serious rn 😭

i genuinely think all my friends hate me like this may be too much but last night late after work i sent in the group chat “who wanna xyz” keep in mind we all dont live in the same place except 3 ppl who live 3 hours from me and i feel bad bc no one answered but when i search up “who wanna” in my imessages i see ppl at least going along with a bit but no one does that with me i feel like everyone thinks im a sensitive crybaby i gave a thumbs down react to it rn and i also sent that i just spilled water on my laptop that was just repaired so they definitely think im dumb as bricks i dont wanna ask for reassurance from them bc its a self fulfilling prophecy and sometimes i wanna step back and leave for at least a little bit just to feel normal and not be constantly checking the gc to make sure ppl still like me :( i literally have it muted but it still bothers me i feel guilty for missing out but its not like ppl care when im active there

ezzieorsomet...

Date posted: Yesterday

I mean, I can't say for certain if your friends do not like you or not. but it really sucks that you are feeling that way right now. saying tings like you feel dumb as bricks means you are beating yourself up. and yeah, sometimes low self esteem can be a self fulfilling prophecy (speaking from experience here). some of feeling left out might be you getting in your head, or maybe your friends aren't as invested in as you are? sometimes there is a mismatch in intensity. i often will get really attached to people and then they are totally ambivalent. sorry you are going through this

ihateithere

Date posted: Yesterday

@ezzieorsomething thank you bro 😭😭😭 the situation sounds silly but i brought it up again like why did no one answer ny question (even if its impossible i just want someone to play along) i fear i just made it worse it rlly is a self fulfilling prophecy but at least i was asking what mood stabilizers they recommend so i dont get like that over not getting answers 😭😭😭 i doubt anyone will respond tbh i hope they dont bc im just embarrassed now

ezzieorsomet...

Date posted: 22h

@ihateithere it doesn't sound silly to me. it sounds like you have ROCD. also when you say mood stabilizers, do you mean something for the anxiety or OCD? not sure what they usually prescribe for it. i see loads of people on here taking various medications that are usually for anxiety or an ssri. although, i have heard there's no guaranteed medication that helps ocd specifically. yeah, i totally get being embarrassed after the fact of not getting a response that's totally nerve wracking. there's plenty of reasons why your group might have not seen it. i think the best thing to do just go forward and keep talking. sometimes people are just busy and miss what you say, or you can just bring it up again another time. like for example when people text me, because of my adhd i accidentally ignore them for like 6 days sometimes because i'll see it, and then forget to reply. i would say just keep talking in group chat through the discomfort. new topic? or wait for someone to talk again. you can always ask again later.

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