Relationship problems.

Hi everyone, I would love some opinions on this topic. About a month ago I had went to inpatient care for my mental health. Got my diagnosis of OCD, I always figured I had it though my thoughts kept telling me I didn’t of course. When I came home I explained to my fiancé that I have OCD and it contains a lot of intrusive thoughts that I struggle with. He seems to be very understanding. Beside all of that, the other day I was talking to him about a video I seen where this woman admitted being a P*do and there was comments under that post mentioning POCD. I know deep down they are two separate things, but when I mentioned it to him he chuckled in disbelief when I mentioned POCD, it was a slap to the face because I know OCD is very misunderstood so I shut my mouth. Other than that, he is always on his phone when I talk to him and then I gotta repeat myself, he never plans dates, or give me his time. I have expressed myself multiple times of my needs and I feel like they aren’t met. I wish he would take the time to research about my diagnosis so he can support me better but i don’t know. What should I do? I feel like our relationship is not doing well.

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 20h

Hello Anxious girl, OCD is characterized by intrusive thoughts and compulsions to alleviate distress associated with the thoughts. It's important to remember that intrusive thoughts don't match our values, which is why they cause distress. Many people with OCD struggle with intrusive thoughts about their relationships and taboo thoughts about sexuality. It can be really tough when those closest to us don’t fully understand what we’re going through, especially when we need their support the most. You’re not alone in feeling misunderstood, and it’s common for loved ones to need time and education to better support us. If you’d like additional support, feel free to book a free call with our NOCD team. We’d be happy to share more information and explore ways to help. No one has to live in fear of their own thoughts. Also here are some helpful resources: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/breaking-the-silence-on-taboo-intrusive-thoughts-a-conversation-with-chrissie-hodges/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/suicidal-ocd-signs-symptoms-and-treatment/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/celebrity-ocd-quotes/ Take care, Ian M. Reeder

Anonymous

Date posted: 20h

He’s a guy. Bottom line we love you but we are still recovering from our Neanderthal ways.

itssal

Date posted: 20h

@Anonymous i feel like that kinda excuses the behavior a little. he should definitely be doing more to support his partner and it sounds like his behavior is hurting our friend here

Anxious girl💐

Date posted: 20h

@Anonymous So are you saying I shouldn’t take it personal?

Anxious girl💐

Date posted: 20h

@itssal It does hurt me :/ because I love him so much and I feel like it’s only one sided.

itssal

Date posted: 20h

@Anxious girl💐 i hear you. that sounds very difficult and u shldnt have to feel so alone, do u think talking to him would make it better?

Anxious girl💐

Date posted: 20h

@itssal I tried talking to him, his actions just doesn’t change. :/

itssal

Date posted: 19h

@Anxious girl💐 hmm, well not be THAT person but… r u sure this relationship is filling ur cup?

Anonymous

Date posted: 20h

Lay a big kiss on him and say hello can I have your attention pls. If that doesn’t work a 2x4 usually got my attention. OCD and a guy! Thanks

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