ROCD and physical Symptoms

@kitkatangie What are your typical thoughts when that happens ?

@Anonyymmm200737373 When I’ll kiss them or hug them I imagine doing that to another person or the bad thought of disturbing images which I get this feeling where it feels real and I would stop afterwards

@kitkatangie That sounds really scary. Maybe it could help to take a moment before kissing, pause, and take a deep breath to ground yourself in the present instead of entering the situation already feeling anxious. You are not what your mind tells you, you are what your heart feels.

@Anonyymmm200737373 Aw thank you, and yeah it has its up’s n downs but I would also question if a kiss is enough or my affection is too little or too much. I am a sensitive person too :(

@Belllllaaaa May I ask what symptoms you experience?

@Anonyymmm200737373 The gut feeling symptom my partner isn’t right for me. Or physical affection sometimes I feel nothing . I also try to ignore it or find ways to stop thinking about it .

@Belllllaaaa I often tell myself that maybe we expect too much because we believe there is a certain minimum level of feelings that we should have. But maybe what we think is the minimum is actually the maximum. Maybe what we are already feeling, deep down inside, is the most genuine and strongest feeling we are capable of experiencing ourselves.

@Anonyymmm200737373 Thank you for that, I think maybe you’re right . Maybe what I’m feeling is my maximum. Also it’s just a constant question in my mind what should I do about that?

@Belllllaaaa One more thing I wanted to add: everyone experiences love and relationships differently. Sometimes it feels like people believe there is only one “right” way to feel or express love, when in reality there are many different ways. As for dealing with these thoughts, I struggle with that myself. I think about them constantly, but I try to remind myself that they are just thoughts and that the only thing that can truly ruin things is my own fear. If something really isn’t right, I believe it will eventually become clear as a calm certainty or a genuine desire to leave, not through constant panic, fear, and overthinking.

@Anonyymmm200737373 That’s a good perspective to have .I’ll start thinking about that when my thoughts get very loud. That resonates with me thank you.I just try to “stop” just unwind my thoughts about this but they get louder and make me feel quite numb to romantic emotion.

@Belllllaaaa One small thing that might help, if your thoughts become very loud, try making a list with two columns. On one side, write down the intrusive thoughts and fears that keep bothering you. On the other side, write down your genuine feelings, the good moments, and the things you truly feel deep down. Sometimes our fears become so overwhelming that they overshadow everything else. The positive feelings and moments are still there, we just stop noticing them because we’re so focused on what feels wrong. As humans, we naturally tend to focus more on negative thoughts because they feel urgent, intense, and demand our attention. Positive feelings often seem quieter or even boring in comparison, so we overlook them. Seeing both sides written down can help remind you that your fears are not the whole picture.

@Anonyymmm200737373 Okay I’ll try that thank you .That makes so much sense .Thank you for the advice .

@Belllllaaaa What do I tell my partner ? He worries iv fallen out of love and im worried I might have , but the thought of not being with him kills me .

@Belllllaaaa In my experience, being completely honest with your partner about your thoughts and emotions can be very relieving. What helped me most was open communication, mutual understanding, and remembering that you are a team. Healing takes time, patience, and self-reflection. It also helped that my partner gave me space instead of holding on too tightly. Knowing that I had the freedom to follow my feelings and intuition, without pressure or guilt, made me feel less trapped and more supported. Even though those conversations were painful at times, the understanding and freedom my partner offered were incredibly comforting. That’s why I would always recommend having an open and honest conversation.

@Anonyymmm200737373 Okay that’s what I’ll do thank you so much for that it will be hard at first and it’ll be a hard upsetting conversation but it’s what’s best he needs to know what’s going on in my mind .Thank you I will do that. I just don’t want to hurt him.Already following some of your advice has helped

@Belllllaaaa It’s important to regularly ask your partner if there’s anything they need in the relationship, while also making sure not to neglect your own needs or force yourself to do something that doesn’t feel right. Wishing you all the best. 💛

@Mylove1518 sending love to you 🫶🏼