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Anyone out there?
Is there anyone out there suffering with ‘false’ attraction in HOCD who is married?
Is there anyone out there suffering with ‘false’ attraction in HOCD who is married?
I’m in the same boat and still learning a lot so I can’t really give much advice. Other than when I’m feeling a certain way or thoughts start to come up, I know it’s not something I need to solve in that very moment. “Am I attracted to my partner? Am I not? Do I really want to be with someone else? Would they rather be with someone else? Am I gay? Am I straight? Am I lying to everyone? To myself?” Etc etc and it goes on and on…… Whether what you’re questioning is real or just ocd, it’s something you figure out in time and while giving yourself a lot of grace. Are you gay? Are you straight? Doesn’t matter. The fact that you’re sitting and questioning it so much is the ocd part. Doesn’t make any thoughts true or not. So while you’re figuring it out and thoughts come up, just try to not to panic and think you need an answer in the moment. You don’t. Not sure if that helps but you’re not alone in your struggles and I wish you the best 🙌✨
@XwitnessX Thank you. You are absolutely right just so hard to accept the uncertainty especially when before the trigger, life was amazing. Again, thank you very much for the advice. Really hope you pull through quickly.
@What is happening to me I find that accepting uncertainty is the BIGGEST hurdle with ocd. It sucks. The questions and anxiety can hit me out of nowhere and it’s really frustrating. Just don’t be too hard on yourself while you’re figuring this life out for the first time. Good luck! 🙌✨
@XwitnessX I try everyday, when I sit with it ‘maybe I am, maybe I’m not’ it just wanted to argue even more. How do you know if it’s working? Thank you for the advice too .
@What is happening to me I think it’s literally ignoring it and occupying your mind. Sometimes scary or stupid thoughts come to mind and I literally just say okay anyway.. and move on. When you sit and try to analyze and try to figure everything out the anxiety just settles in and I try to avoid that. I don’t know if that’s me being avoidant or if that’s a good technique, as I said I’m still learning a lot too.
@XwitnessX For example, I’ve questioned my relationships and my feelings in them probably in ever relationship I’ve had and I just sort of accept the uncertainty and move forward and figure it out along the way, rather than dwell in that very minute. Because I question my feelings so much, I wonder if I should leave or I argue with myself to stay because it could just be me being silly, and I don’t make any rash decisions in the moment which maybe sometimes keeps me in bad company too. I dunno. It’s a lot. My only real advice is to be kind and patient with yourself while you figure it out, just because thoughts come doesn’t make them true. But the weight it all carries is probably just the fact that you have ocd. So I guess labeling it helps too?
Hi again friend! Just came across this and thought it might help to what we were talking about earlier…. Hope it helps 🫶
@XwitnessX Thank you for all your advice. I really do appreciate it. So difficult when no one asked for this. Thank you for taking your time to help and give advice.
@What is happening to me I understand completely, some days/moments can be real shit. Like on top of dealing with normal everyday life stuff ocd makes it all that much harder. We just have to learn to work with the brains we were given I guess, maybe find a superpower in it. I don’t know. But you have my support through this and I know it’s absolutely something we can learn to live with and therapy will help! Just have to be willing to grow 🙌
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