Hey guys!! Iām still struggling a lot with my real event spike, and I feel really pessimistic right nowā¦ Does anybody want to share any positive feedback, thoughts or comments? Anything is appreciated! <3 My addition: I was able to not seek for reassurance for around a week now! :)
Thats so good welldone! Its 2am where I am and I canāt sleep because I keep thinking about my real event. Wanted to come on here for some comfort. Its so strange because the event was so out of character for me and really goes against who I am as a person. I hate I canāt change the past. I also feel so haunted by it like will I ever feel free of it? I am normally so positive but even I have times where it all feels too much. Then, equally sometimes I have moments where I feel like maybe everything is okay, and will be okayā¦ those are the best but I feel like it always comes back sadly. Sending love ā¤ļø
@recoveryisneverlinear Hii! I totally understand you, also, you can get all the comfort you want in here š«. I do absolutely relate. The events I obsess also haunt me, quite a lot. I also feel like you, and I keep asking myself whether Iāll be able to free myself from them one day. Sometimes I am positive, sometimes not. Iād say real event is so exhausting because deep inside, we know that the past canāt be changed. But hey! We have to give ourselves the credit for the little things, everything is progress once we realise that this is a spiral. Iāve reading quite a lot from you, and your positive posts genuinely help me a lot. Also, itās nice to see that Iām not the only one with real event themes, because it really makes me feel like I am the worst person ever :( Thank you for your comment and Iām here if you wanna talk! Xx
@anonymous_purpleš That is lovely I could cry š„² the feeling of being understood is so relieving. Its really so difficult- and you are most definitely right we have to give ourselves credit- I am definitely not as bad as I used to be with this theme. I think I struggle because I always try to be that trustworthy, reliable and happy person for everyone that my past mistakes feel even bigger when contextualised with my identity. I always think that if people knew they would see me so differently- and its partly that shame which keeps my real event alive. Has anything been helping you recently? ā¤ļø
@recoveryisneverlinear I also feel like that, I feel like people would look at me differently if they knew. I can see that we have very similar patterns. Well, Iāll say that I really didnāt help anything that helps me calm down. I guess the usual: weāre not going through this now. But itās tough, really tough. Also, as a side note, the SOS button in here is somewhat useful! :)
Just wanted to come on here and say that reassurances used to be my biggest and strongest compulsions. Whether it was mental, physical etcā¦ I would do it all. After a year of ERP I can say that I have significantly reduced the amount of reassurances that I do or seek. It does get better!! ā¤ļøāš©¹ always here if you need to talk!!
@Anonymous Tysm. I really do need support rn. Also, iām proud of you!
Thatās longer than I ever have went without congratulations !
@MR.25.25 Itās not easy! Iād say itās one of the hardest things Iāve ever done. I had picked up a really bad habit when it came to reassurance seeking because I used AI or Google Search for it! :( You can do it though! I believe in you :)
Iām trying to stop my reassurance seeking too, great job friend š
@08winter You can do it!! Weāre here to support you :)
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