ADVICE please ‼️‼️‼️

I understand u and not the same situation but similar things always happens to me ocd brain always thinks the things we dont want to actually all human brains do that when u dont wanna think about something its nearly impossible for us. So I know its hard but try distracting yourself and always remember you shouldnt think every thought is true and vital. I can really understand u I have realy healty relationship (except my thoughts) and whenever I act kind to someone I feel fear or whenever someone be kind to me u are not alone and you will be okay

Yeah I understand, your mind is trying to make this seem urgent because of a coincidence. It’s normal to find another person attractive because it’s basic human thing to notice someone’s features. Unfortunately, I have not found a way to differentiate my feelings and the thoughts alone, but if you need anyone to talk to, I’m here, I relate to this a lot.

Okay I used to do this EXACT same thing when I was younger and though I never dated anyone till I met my husband, I would feel guilty if I found someone attractive while crushing on someone else. And yeah, I would do the song thing 😅 like oh my gosh this fits so perfectly blah blah blah 😂🤦‍♀️ but anyway, sometimes I’ll still see someone attractive and feel guilty because I think I’m gonna crush on some rando. I’m actually married now and I hate that my brain makes me think “ooooh you’re cheating!!” Which I am not, and I don’t need to obey my fleeting emotions. And I don’t tell my husband about that kind of thing because it’s 1) temporary and 2) isn’t necessary 3) is really just my brain lying to me lol. If you know what is right and objective, you don’t need to obey your brain when it’s acting up and fleeting emotions.

When I'm in a restaurant or just have to walk down the hall at the school that I work at I get anxious feeling in my gut when I walk by me. A script plays in my head that they think I'm attracted to them and that I'm acting weird. If there is a group of people and they are talking I think they are talking about me. I'm married and have been married for 13 years. I thought it would go away once I was married. If people are talking in the office outside my door I will close door and put music on to drown out the conversation. I will try to avoid these teachers in the hallway and will not go to faculty meetings or luncheon. It can be very debilitating. I wouldn't tell your ex because I think it's just Ocd and I'm not sure your ex will understand. If at some point it looks like you are getting really serious with your ex you can tell your ex about your ocd and invite ex to join support group