Does anybody ever have doubts wether they had sex with someone or not. You know you haven't but just can achieve a sense of certainty.

I am able to create a doubt about anything I fear...for instance I was hiking with my little daughter the other day and afterwords I started questioning myself if she had fallen and hurt herself and I just didn’t remember....of course she hadn’t, and logically I knew that, but I could’ve achieve 100 percent certainty so I had that nagging feeling in my brain...like all other obsessions and intrusive thoughts, we need to just let these sit with us without trying to undo them or figure them out...eventually the anxiety passes and you can see reality again

I also always have one major one that takes most of my ocd time;) and always some minor coffeemachine checking. But you are right, one absolutely deletes the previous one, really making it clear how the themes are not the case. The anxiety behind it I think is the ”real problem”.

Exactly!

Exactly. It is so hard cause you feel guilt for something you haven't even done.

Bogey and Wendy 82 I can tell you get it. Glad not to be alone.

That's really helpful guys. Yes it is funny how one obsession can delete another. I am learning that you can't think your way out of an obsession. I like to see it as a chemically induced thought with a life of its own which will die out if left alone.

Yeah, when I was with my ex I thought I cheated on her but I didnt

Yeah I know what you mean! We will get through this

We will!!!! :-)

I hope?!

I so now the feeling. The most difficult part is just accepting the situation (whatever the disturbing thought is) and just have faith for it to pass... without doing/thinking ANYTHING. ?

It is strange how these ocd of mine has slowly developed in maybe 15yrs time... kind of sneaked up on me and this summer autumn has been the most difficult. All these absolutely irrational feats abt being this and that horrible, mostly relationship wise, have just surfaced. Kind of out of the blue. Life should and would be very ok at the moment, good realationship, everything going well and the all of a sudden just huge ocd scares and fears. Frustrating?

*fears

The interesting thing is I can only obsess about one thing at a time, so if a new obsession comes in I stop worrying altogether about the previous one...which proves I’m a way that none of these obsessions are really important in reality...having that awareness in the heat of an obsession is the key....ERP has been helping me a lot