I can't stop feeling guilty

I have a friend that came out as a lesbian not too long ago and as a Christian I was fine with the fact that she likes the same gender but since then she’s kinda stopped following Christianity and I have drifted a lot from her. I have felt really judgmental and bad about it because I want to bring her back without being pushy. To me tho if being transgender or gay is a sin then it isn’t any worse than any other. I try to remember that it’s all in Gods hands and not to worry too much about it.

Having guilt and anxiety come up out of the blue without reason can be very distressing. Your kindness for your friend and faith are evident. Wishing you a good day today :)

Honestly, as a Christian who is lesbian, religion shouldn’t be a hard “rule book”. Really the main theme of the bible is pushing people to be the best versions of themselves and to spread love onto others. “Love thy neighbor as yourself” is really just pointing at being nice and friendly to those around you. I don’t think you’ll be going to hell because you’re respecting what your friend wants. Faith is definitely something that affects a lot of people, especially those with OCD. How I’ve dealt with it is that God is love and as long as you’re being the best version of yourself (or at least trying) and just generally not being an arsehole, you’re doing something right. Personally I don’t think my God will punish those for loving people of the the same sex, or even changing themselves to be more comfortable with themselves.

I used to experience very similar things - I am gay and Catholic. I had to step fully away from religion for a couple years to heal myself and then I was lucky enough to move to a big city with progressive churches. I go to a Jesuit parish and any of the priests there would encourage you and tell you that you are doing the right/Christ-like thing by loving and supporting your friend wholly. I went to confession for the first time after a couple years and told the priest I had avoided it due to my scrupulosity and I asked him to help me do it without going down a rumination spiral. I also told him I didn’t know exactly what to confess versus not since I no longer accept all of the generally accepted beliefs about sexuality/sexual sin. Ultimately I confessed for high-level things like being uncharitable / unloving toward people sometimes etc rather than listing every little sin I could think of and he told me I made a wonderful confession. The best advice I can give is seek out a Jesuit or other progressive parish and tell the priest you suffer from OCD / need help working though that while avoiding getting too triggered. Best wishes to you!

Hi, I'm not christian but I'm a trans man that grew up surrounded by the faith. From my understanding : if you believe He made humans, that would also imply He made us with the ability to have intrusive thoughts, OCD, and fears. Not because He wishes to punish us, but because He knows we can overcome these challenges. That the obstacles and challenges He has given us will make us stronger, make us better to be able to serve Him as well as our community. Is a priest's word above His? Are fellow Christian's words above His? Follow His teachings, follow His love. Ignore the rest. I hope I worded myself well, I wanted to ensure my words made sense within your faith as best as I could.

Jesus drew a line in the sand for Mary Magdalene. If you recall, she didn't necessarily live up to the Lord's standards. Just love and respect your friends -legit what JC did 🤷