I’m a guy and a girl called me “girl”

I could be overthinking it, but I noticed some girls in my class have been saying “girrlll” like how dudes say bro but as a guy when a girl calls me that, it makes me really uncomfortable and question, “do they think im gay” why are they calling me girl? I don’t want to say anything in that moment because I don’t want it to be an overreaction then these people start talking behind my back and they might make it weird. If I did say in a joking way or a serious way, “ does a girl have a full beard?” ( I have a beard), or “do I look like a girl to you?” I know they will get offended themselves or awkward about it. How I respond will definitely be important especially my delivery and tone. I do try to make it seem like I didn’t hear what they said or not acknowledge that at all. Especially since I’m attracted to women, if there’s other girls in the background hearing a girl call me a “girl” when I am not, I start worrying that other girls might think of me as gay. I can’t be the only dude that thinks this. One of my class all my partners were females it just happened to be that way. We ended up being cool with one another, but it started to get annoying and frustrating when called me that.

floatingalien

Date posted: Yesterday

I do believe you’re thinking too much into it. Just like girls are now frequently calling each other “bro” and “dude” as friendly filler words, some girls call guys “girl” or “girrlll” In most cases, it has nothing to do with your sexuality or your appearance. It simply means they feel comfortable and casual around you. To them, it’s just a vibration and slang, it doesn't mean they actually view you as female. I catch myself calling my grown cousin girl and he has a full beard and everything. It’s honestly just a figure of speech and has nothing to with emasculating you from my own experience. However! If you genuinely do not like it and it’s causing you stress maybe try to tell your classmates. It is completely normal to feel annoyed and self conscious when a girl calls you “girl.” You are definitely not the only guy who feels this way. Language and slang can be confusing, and being called a feminine term can make anyone feel like their masculinity is being questioned or that others might get the wrong idea about their sexuality!

Sassparillaf...

Date posted: Yesterday

You can just tell them you don’t like being called “girl” even if it is just in a friendly gender neutral way. Most people will accept that and maybe slip up out of habit but apologize and correct themselves. At my job we ALL call each other girl the guys call other guys girl. The girls call guys girl. The guys call girls girl and the girls call other girls girl. There is one guy who said he didn’t like that and seemed confused by the whole thing so we stopped calling him girl. I noticed that he seemed to feel left out once he realized he was the only one not being called girl and that it really was being used the same and just as often as dude or comrade but u til he says otherwise im not going to start calling him girl again because one preference was voiced and two I only inferred the later dejection

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