off topic but i wish i had friends. i dont have any friends since my childhood bestfriend stopped talking to me and now i dont have any friend. (spending all the time alone when my boyfriend isnt around makes my ocd worse)
I understand what you are saying, the process of "making friends" is kind of tiring, especially if you are trying hard and it takes even longer to get comfortable with them. For what it is, I"ll help you in whatever way I can!
im trying to talk with people but they dont want to really talk with me or go out or anything
@varen well if you consider them good friends of yours whom you have known for long then just leave them. And if they are ones who aren't good friends then, same thing, leave them. This might sound rode but don't force yourself onto someone, it's hard to "make" friends, it's just something that automatically happenes. You will find your group one day.
@Pratyush271 i had a group and its really sad that im not a part of it anymore
@varen I know how it feels but believe me, it was NEVER "your" group.
@Pratyush271 i mean i know my mistake which is the fact that i isolated from them but i tried to tell them that its because of my illness and i apologized for it and reached out to them but they didnt show any willingness to talk
@varen Just leave them, they are not your friends, well atleast not anymore. The faster you accept that the better it is. Only talk with them if they are the ones to reach out.
It’s hard to connect with people these days. I truly wish you the best in making friends and expanding your human connections. I’m fortunate to have a wonderful wife, but even we have kind of forgotten how to make new friends over the years. So whatever obstacles you’re facing, I sincerely hope you find your way to the other side. I’ll be rooting for you.
rocd is the main reason because i isolated mysef from everyone else because i have rocd that is concentrated on my boyfriend and now i just kind of lost the ability to talk to people
@ ERPBeginner I hope you consider your options for getting some help. You're on this site so that says a lot about you seeking solutions to find greater freedom. I started with SSRIs years ago, which helped a great deal. Now after all these years I’m hoping for a further breakthrough with ERP therapy I start in a couple of weeks. All the best. I know there is hope and it looks like your looking in the right place.
@ ERPBeginner im in therapy, and im taking medication that is unfortunately not helping me
Are you open to making new friends at all?
yes im trying to
Well if you’re open to it I’m as well trying to do the same. So if you ever need someone to talk too I’ll try to help
Oops, it’s okay. You are not alone. I had a close group of friends since middle school, but they left me at the end of high school. They told me that I had become very depressed, but I never told them that I was struggling with OCD. I remembered this because I feel like crying right now, but it’s okay. Over time, I learned how to live with myself, and I want to be my own friend even if no one is around. I have myself, and I have God with me, and that is what matters. It doesn’t affect me as much anymore, but it left me with a sensitivity to rejection. I’m only sharing this because I don’t want you to feel alone. Don’t let loneliness push you into toxic relationships, because you might end up feeling lonely again. Friends have a big influence on who we become and how we think. Try to surround yourself with people who support you, encourage you, and help you become a better version of yourself, even during your recovery journey. Just stay open. Don’t hold yourself back because of fear of other people’s opinions. Take opportunities to meet kind and inspiring people; they can positively change the way you think. Most importantly, be your own friend first and always🧏🏻♀️❤
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