OCD and ADHD resistance

A lot of the time, when something new happens to me that would change something significantly, I automatically start resisting it. It can be something as small as anything. Then my HOCD started, and because of that I try to resist these automatic feelings of resistance by using compulsive counter-evidence. The reason I resist these things is because I’m afraid that the same thing is happening with my HOCD — that I’m only resisting because of that. Now I received my ADHD diagnosis. At first I was happy about it, then my attention shifted away and I started feeling the same thing with this too. I started resisting the ADHD, thinking that I don’t want to have ADHD. Of course, I try to resist that reaction too because I was even happy about the diagnosis at first (and now that I’ve written this down, I’m feeling that resistance again), plus I don’t want the same thing to be happening with my HOCD. Is this “resistance/contradicting myself” thing familiar to you?

iPodnano96

Date posted: Yesterday

Welcome to ADHD-OCD comorbidity, my fellow friend! I too have said conditions and it is a trrrriipp 😵‍💫. The numerous maelstroms, loops, spirals all relating to resistance, self contradiction, etc, etc… are all too familiar. The compromised executive functioning due to ADHD is then also hijacked by OCD and ramped up to a 💯. For me, my ADHD meds helped me until I found out the stimulants work best when taken with SSRI’s, such as Lexapro for me 😅. Keep learning about ADHD and find small certain things to help yourself. For me, my wallet goes in the same place when I get home and ONLY in that one place. You’re in very good company.

Anonymous

Date posted: Yesterday

So you don't think that I have some other problems? Like why am I resisting in other stuff? And also that I'm afraid that at the HOCD I have the same thing and it's real. Are these things are familiar to you too? I don't know if these are asking for reassurence but now I feel like I don't even know what my problem is anymore. Please help and thanks for your reply!

iPodnano96

Date posted: Yesterday

From my personal experience- my OCD likes the push and pull of resistance since it likes to stress over not having a firm answer, certainty. I’ve had my experience with HOCD and it is stressful, but definitely speak with your therapist to work out the feelings you’re having. Also, I can tell by what you’re typing at least, that you’re spiraling 🌀. You’re okay. It’s your OCD that is making you spiral. I do the same thing. You will be fine even though you may not feel like it.

Anonymous

Date posted: Yesterday

Thanks

Anonymous

Date posted: Yesterday

Hey I need your help. So I was diagnosised with ADHD and HOCD and I'm scared because I read that there are more ADHD people who are lgbtq then the heterosexual ones. And I also feel chill and not panicking while I want to panick.

iPodnano96

Date posted: 14h

@Anonymous Hey I feel you. Im gay my self and have met a handful of other LGBTQ who are also ADHD (as hell, lol 😂). Feeling a level of cognitive dissonance is typical for those with ADHD, practically causing a sense of decision paralysis- this is normal, but learn techniques about how to break out of it AND also note that OCD may take over and obsesses how you’re not making a decision! 😵‍💫🌀🌀 I’m still learning my self since I was diagnosed in 2017 and with OCD since 2024!

Anonymous

Date posted: 14h

@iPodnano96 You said you had HOCD.... What was your fear? That you are not gay or you came out as your fear?

iPodnano96

Date posted: 13h

For me it was me thinking that I’m not gay and I was going through a phase and being dramatic and wanting attention- this being a spiral my brain would latch onto for hours at a time…it was exhausting 🫩. Yet it was my OCD overthinking and causing anxiety. But being on my ADHD meds and therapy helped me rid the spiral.

Anonymous

Date posted: 13h

Thank you. What do you think anyway that I have HOCD and ADHD how many chances there are that my fear is not true or true? Because ADHD people are more likely lgbtq. That's scares me.

iPodnano96

Date posted: 13h

@Anonymous I hear you- but I can tell you’re spiraling as well. Be it true or false? I can’t give you an answer because I actually don’t know! Your OCD is looking for something to latch on to- a number. It wants to feed and it’s causing you to be scared. I advise you to speak to your therapist. Know that you’re not alone in dealing with this comorbidity, there are many of us out here.

Anonymous

Date posted: 13h

@iPodnano96 Thanks!

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