Attraction

Honestly I’ve never noticed that I think about this, I just thought I was a bad person that thought bad things until I noticed people posting about it on here. I’m a cashier and sometimes customers will try to flirt with me, it’s something I’m not that used to. My current boyfriend of 3 years is my first boyfriend so I have little experience in all the dating and flirting stuff. I’m too much of a people pleaser and I’m just trying to be nice and not hurt peoples feelings so I go along with it kind of and I feel guilty. I’ve given my instagram to people and then I block them because in the moment I was too scared to say no. I’ve been learning Spanish for a few years and I love to practice with the customers who don’t really speak English. Most times they will ask me out or something even when I tell them I’m still a student or whatever. Or a guy will call me pretty or smth. and I always think, “what if I’m actually attracted to them? Does that mean I don’t like my boyfriend? What if they’ll do something to me because I’m underage?” And I’ll notice like an arousal kind of feeling. Or when a guy in general talks to me I’ll avoid them because I’m scared of feeling attracted to them. I also sometimes get sexual images of them and it makes me feel disgusted and uncomfortable. Didn’t even know this was a part of OCD until people talked about it on here. I never really wanted to talk about it I just thought it was a weird thing I did to myself that made me uncomfortable. I just thought I’d share and see if anyone else feels similar?

Tea and Honey

Date posted: 16h

I think it sounds like OCD is getting in the way of you being able to just enjoy living life. There is nothing wrong with being pretty. This might mean you get extra attention. You will be faithful to your boyfriend, of course, but you dont have to agonize over every thought, action, and feeling. :):):):) The more you can recognize the OCD, the more freedom you will get

oliviabroewn

Date posted: 16h

@Tea and Honey True! Recognizing this helped me be able to help stop it when it happens. I would just let myself think this most times. Thanks for the support :)

cassiehasocd

Date posted: 16h

i've dealt with this exact situation before and just know that it's not ur own thoughts and it's not your fault. the feeling that comes from being called pretty or something similar like that is usually just because a compliment came out of nowhere when you weren't expecting it and caught you a little of guard or at least that's what i've come to realize for myself. whenever you get a sexual images or thoughts of the person your talking to, exhale sharply and remind yourself it's not your desire and it has no impact on real life. let these thoughts exit on their own and with time it will get better trust me. so glad that people are talking about this side of ocd now it's so common

oliviabroewn

Date posted: 16h

@bigqenis Yeah it almost seemed taboo to talk about it since it’s a more “personal” thing. But people talking about it helped me recognize. Also, I’ll be using that the next time I get those intrusive images, that’s pretty helpful so thank you. And yeah I often get caught off guard by the compliment and the attention that it makes me confuse the feeling for attraction or something.

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