I talked to my mom about ocd and it hasnt gone great

After years of obsessively hiding it, I told my mom about my ocd again last thursday and she has been different to me since then. I am also planning to go away for college, and she wants me to stay and we also talked about that on thursday, but that has been brought up throughout the last few weeks with no issue, and this is exactly how she reacted 3 years ago when i couldnt hide during a major episode because we were on vacation together. she told me a year after that that it really scared her because she didnt know how to help me. In the years since that even just me saying the word ocd made her seem different. that was way before i was even thinking about college. Anyways, she has been acting different towards me since last thursday and i only told her half of how bad ocd has been for me. I even left out what my obsessions were. for the last week when talking to her it has felt like she is disappointed to see me. i dont think that is the case but that is what it feels like. She has been doing better in recent days, but that is because I havent brought it up since we talked on thursday. I think this combined with the college thing is really getting her. yesterday she kept sending me texts questioning my plans to go to college elsewhere, and seemingly trying to catch some place that i had under-prepared that would stop the whole thing. I need to go off to college in a new state to show myself that i can despite my mental disorder, and additionally this new place has much better mental health resources for ocd than where i am from I am still glad i said something because i cant keep up hiding it. I have this problem of trying to seem like this perfectly mentally healthy person for people and i am just not that. I have a significant mental disorder that has been very severe

Jayson.a

Date posted: Yesterday

Your feelings are valid! Your mom may care about you but doesn’t know how to help you, which might explain that she seem different after hearing about your OCD. I think you’re brave for not letting OCD stop you from going to a college far from home! If not yet done, I suggest talking to a therapist specializing in OCD to help manage your symptoms while still in college. I hear your frustration and worries but unfortunately our family members are not experts in giving us advice about ocd, but i hope they are there to listen and be with you so you do not feel alone. I wish you the best in everything. You got this!

JS55555

Date posted: Yesterday

Thank you and honestly I am doing much better because I followed online programs on how to get better. I am going to get in with a therapist to prevent it from getting worse when I move. I only told my mom because I need the health insurance. And I am not frustrated at her. I can see that it may come off that way in what I said but I am definitely not frustrated. She handles normal problems with me well. When typing this I was just more sad about everything this disorder put me through and how it seems to still be ruining my life even after doing much better

buffy31564

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: Yesterday

If she is worried and concerned, she can educate herself. Nocd has a support group, or she can look at YouTube videos, she can read books. Her best way of supporting you is her educating herself. You are working hard to help yourself. Good for you! OCD does NOT define who you are! Best wishes in college!!!

JS55555

Date posted: Yesterday

Thank you! I honestly barely talked about my experiences with it. I showed her some nocd videos about medication and a little about ocd in general and that is what sent her into this. My case has been very bad and she just got the textbook summary basically of the disorder via the videos. That is why she only has an idea of half of what I have been through so far

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