Costa Rica

So it’s been my dream since before I graduated to go to Costa Rica. When some issues happened with my mom and family and I and on top of my tumultuous relationship, I kind of got disconnected from that part of myself and didn’t really do much to work towards that dream. I’m now presented with a couple opportunities. I could either take a short trip there with a group of girls or I could take a class there and live live there for a while and get certified to teach English as a foreign language which would enable me to live in other countries and travel to other places as well. I’m getting super perfectionist about the right way to make this choice and the right thing to do. Should I go on the short trip with the group of girls or should I get my English teaching certification and just move there? Or should I start with the trip and do both? I know that it’s because the dream is important to me and has already been put off because of my trauma and anxiety and overthinking, and this is probably just reassurance seeking, but I’m frustrated that it’s so difficult for me to make these types of choices. I’ve trained my AI to respond like this but I’m still spiraling and struggling so much to sit with it.

Mr. Brightside

Date posted: 12h

Do both!!🤩 going with your girlfriends is such a great way to have fun there and test the place out. And teaching English in a foreign country is SUCH a great way to REALLY get to know a place, be part of and truly understand the culture, and give you an incredible piece of life experience you won’t get anywhere else. I traveled the world for 2 years and I found that when you live somewhere for more than a month it makes an incredible difference. And living there for even longer builds a foundational piece of who you are. You won’t regret it. I say do both! Get your feet wet and have fun with your friends and then live there so your friends can keep visiting you and you get an experience of a lifetime!

Firefly girl

Date posted: 12h

@Anonymous They’re not my friends (yet), It’s like a group trip though so ideally I’ll make friends with them when I go, but I’m just scared because I’m not on medication right now. I don’t feel like I’ve achieved where I wanna be with ERP so I don’t know if like a whole move is like too big for me right now like I’m debating if I go on the week trip and then come back for a bit and work my mental health and then move or if I just say fuck it and buy a one-way ticket and don’t look back

Mr. Brightside

Date posted: 12h

@Firefly girl Hmmm yeah that’s hard bc I don’t your OCD situation. maybe in that case just do the trip first now. You can always go back to do the school later. Try to crush out a bunch of therapy first then move with all your new therapy skills 😅

simpson578

Date posted: 12h

I say do both! I’m in my late 20s and always regretted not traveling much in my 20s I think going with girlfriends and teaching sounds incredibly important for you.

ben123

Date posted: 10h

Your gut knows what is right - it’s the anxiety that is telling you what if you get it wrong. Try to really breath into what you want and then take a risk that you get it wrong

ben123

Date posted: 10h

Also I see you say ‘you can’t stand not knowing’ - you can stand it you just don’t want to

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