Relationship OCD Struggles

I think these are very normal things to worry about, but I don’t think there are any concrete right answers. The reality is, maybe especially with relationships, all those questions are kinda answered by “maybe?”. It’s good to meet and date several different people as an adult because you learn more about yourself and your needs, but you don’t have to and you seem to be happy with your partner. Are you having thoughts about your attraction to someone because you’re in the wrong relationship? Maybe. What would make a relationship “the wrong one”? You are in a long term relationship with your boyfriend and yall may get married and be happy and ect forever, or you may get married and later decide you no longer work and don’t wish to be married anymore, or maybe you break things off now and start dating again. Choosing any of these answers would by okay, but you would still be worried about wether they were the right or wrong one. Sometimes you just have to live your life and see what happens. If ever you feel leaving your partner is something you need to do, the option is there.

I've read that OCD can flare up during big life changes because there is a lot of uncertainty! These are normal things to be worried about too. But what I try and remember is that relationships are right until you feel they are wrong. I feel like this is swearing in the OCD community but you have to just "trust the process" I suffer with the same problems you are having too! So you're not on your own! I have recently got with a new boyfriend and loads of people told me I was moving on top fast because I got with him quickly. Then i started questioning "am I ready? What if I get hurt again?" That kind of thing. But for that I found an amazing quote. But what if I fall? Yeah but then what if you fly?. Meaning it could all go wrong, but what if it goes really right!? So you could have all these worries about marrying your boyfriend, but then what if it goes right and really right!? You will only know if you try 😁♥️

My thought process when going through exactly this before marrying my husband was: I get to decide which set of "what ifs" I want to deal with. If I move forward I am choosing to tolerate the "what if's" you listed. If I decide to back out/break up then I will be living with the "what if I threw away something incredible" "What if I missed out on something that could have really fulfilled me?" "What if I missed out on building our special little family?" There will ALWAYS be "what ifs" for EVERY choice we make. It is ultimately up to us to decide which ones we feel are worth it because what @StrawberryMustang37 said is absolutely right and whichever you choose could also go super well 💕 I hope this was more helpful than triggering.