ROCD

I’ve definitely been in those loops too, but more analyzing how I feel instead of what the other person feels. I tend to go to ChatGPT all the time, and just realized today that it was a form of compulsion, and would just feed my rumination. It seems never ending! I wish I had advice, but sometimes a simple “you don’t need to make a decision right now” can help for a few minutes! I also try to focus on how that person makes me feel in the present moment, instead of “what ifs”

I feel so much less alone reading your vent, but I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I have had similar experiences, asking ChatGPT etc. I told my ChatGPT to act like a therapist who specializes in ocd, compulsions, and ERP and to not give in when I ask for reassurance or to help me catch on when I am being sneaky with reassurance seeking (sometimes I don’t even notice that what I’m looking for is reassurance) and it has helped a lot. My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years and I was just diagnosed with OCD last year and I just started treatment at the beginning of this year. We are in couples therapy repairing all the hurts that came from me having ocd and not understanding it and her not understanding that my intrusive thoughts aren’t a reflection of her, but my own fears. We are finally on the road to being healthy and connected. I have days where I get lost wondering about if it’s my intuition or if it’s just my ocd, but each day gets easier the more I do my exposures. When it ramps up I try to think “great! A chance to practice my exposures!” Good luck on your journey! Being ok with uncertainty feels so much better than obsessively worrying about events that may or may not even come to be.

I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years and I was bombarded by urgent thoughts that were “red flags” or “early signs” I’ll be broken up with or cheating. It took a while for me to get out of but I had to teach myself I couldn’t reassurance seek anymore and I stopped caring. It sounds too simple and honestly I still deal with some thoughts here and there, but I’m much happier not letting those thoughts run my relationship. Just know you’re not alone. So many people deal with this too. The main goal I had was to stop the compulsions. I slowly made myself sit with the uncertainty and one compulsion was constantly asking for reassurance so that was the main one I had to get rid of. I heard this same stuff while trying to figure my way out of it and it didn’t make sense until it happened so I get if it doesn’t make sense. It seems very simple, but it’s hard.