My Dad died unexpectedly. Advice please.

Im so sorry for your loss. I think the fact that you are already trying to reach out and talk about it is a really big step in the right direction. Something like this is going to take time to process and you need to give yourself time and space to grieve. If you have access to a therapist I recommend you talk about it with them to process everything as well. And anything you can do to spend time with friends and family will help. Keep talking about it, its okay to cry, its okay to ask for help.

I’m so sorry for your loss, I write letters to my loved ones that passed away and I meditate for their love to cross through me again and it helps me get through my grief

Wow, that sounds really painful and I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Something I would encourage is letting your therapist know what’s happening. They may be able to help you distinguish between grief, trauma, and what could be ocd pulling you in more with compulsions. And then give advice on how to cope with all these complex things. I hope you’re able to give yourself some grace, and not judge yourself on not being able to recall the happy moments with your dad. Especially when you’re trying to care for your mom, which can lead to not having much space to process your own emotions. Those happy memories still exist, just right now your brain is trying to process a traumatic loss. I would also try to give yourself some time alone to just sit with any feelings for a few minutes a day (mindfulness practices). Grief can be complex, and just getting through each day is enough. I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️‍🩹

My deepest condolences to you and your family. Something that may help since you and your dad talked every day is to write letters to him in a way that you talked with him before. Give yourself time and grace, and be sure to take at least a few minutes a day to yourself to sit in the quiet, or do something that you enjoy (walking, biking, video games, reading, whatever it may be).

I, too, lost my best friend and Dad - 11 years ago. It is when my anxiety started - on top of “regular” OCD. It also gave me a new role of executor/trustee of his estate and then helping my mom. I never learned how to grieve…. Since then I learned about GRIEFSHARE Ministries. It helped me a lot with how to walk thru grief. NOCD has helped with OCD… It is a journey. What is super hard and painful now will get better you can enjoy the memories of your dad. The dying violently part… that just makes it even harder…. I will pray for you.

I appreciate all of you for taking the time to write such supportive words. Thank you