Anyone have ANY advice? I’m so worried & confused😢

My ex and I got in a huge fight over absolutely nothing which led him to block me and tell me to never return. With that, I accepted a date that a guy had asked me out on that I’ve known for years. We had a great time but didn’t do anything crazy. The next day, my ex unblocked me to ask why I didn’t care, blamed me for more stuff, etc. I was angry at first and wondering if I should see that other guy again (he’s very kind and attractive, but we didn’t exactly hit it off), but now I feel guilty. I still have love for my ex and he still loves me. Him blocking me was out of nowhere and after we confessed we still loved each other. Now I’m worried. I don’t think I like this new guy per se, but what if my ex decides to come back and I have to explain that I could have feelings for someone else? I don’t think I do YET but it’s possible. I’m completely stuck… I know hanging out with this guy again would be totally fun but idk if it’s worth it, and my guilt is leading me into a weird spiral of confusion and anger and anxiety. What should I do??

Amberellarl

Date posted: 2d

After reading everything you wrote, I don't feel confident in his feelings. In my eyes, you don't randomly block someone and tell them not to contact you if you love them.. :( What he did was really mean and you deserve someone who isn't going to keep you walking on eggshells. I don't know the full story, so if I'm wrong about something, I do apologize, but from what this post entails, it just doesn't feel right for YOU to feel guilty instead of him???? HE'S the one that blocked you and got upset while you stood your ground and explored new options. You deserve to feel free to do what makes YOU happy, and you need to remember to put yourself first in situations like these! Again, I could be wrong about something, but he is giving off bad vibes after what he did to you. I know I personally wouldn't randomly block someone I love after a fight. I would take time to understand the situation and fix the problem instead of completely blocking the person and running away to avoid it.... I'm sorry if any of that sounded harsh :( I just think honesty is what is needed, because you deserve amazing things and keeping someone like that around may not be what's best, you know? <3 Thank you for reading, and I hope you have a good one 💙

bsquiggled

Date posted: 2d

@Amberellarl Thank you so much ❤️❤️ this helped me put it in wayyy better of a perspective. I think my OCD latched onto my confusion and I made it wayyy worse than it really is which is sooo typical LOL🥹

jdelg0310

Date posted: 2d

Do you have relationship OCD?

bsquiggled

Date posted: 2d

@jdelg0310 Yea, that’s the reason we didn’t work out in the first place unfortunately :(

jdelg0310

Date posted: 2d

@bsquiggled Usually ROCD is based on fears or concerns that have no basis in reality. It sounds like your ex has mistreated you recently :( I think you owe it to yourself to explore happiness in other areas of life.

Gorgeousgirlie

Date posted: 2d

Absolutely break up w your bf. He sounds toxic. Who blocks their partner because of a fight. & it is ok to like the other guy but you dont have to. You also dont need to explain the new guy to your EX. He literally blocked you

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