I need some weird advice ⚠️⁉️🐞

I saw my ex again recently. I was just dropping something off, but I mentioned how much I missed him and I confessed I had gone out with other guys in the past couple weeks. We had broken up two months ago but had been actively hooking up, still saying I love you, the whole nine yards (until he kicked me out of his life out of nowhere, which led me to accept the dates). He made me feel like the devil. Obviously he was sad, which is fair, and I feel for him in a way. I know he still loves me and our situation is far from typical and we both hurt each other. but he made me feel like a total h0e and was in complete shock. To be fair, I wanted to get back together with him, and he knew that so I see the shock- and I still partially do hope he comes back- but he himself said he probably wouldn’t come back, to not wait for him, etc. after all of it I told him I wouldn’t talk to guys anymore while healing from this… and then he randomly blocked me on absolutely every single thing the next day. One of the guys I was hanging out with prior to this interaction reached out again. Do I hangout with him?? I know my ex will return 100% and I work with him soon so I’ll inevitably be in contact with him. This other guy is a good time and distraction though, and isn’t looking for anything serious and won’t hook up with me or anything. If I sound horrible please point that out too. I’m willing to see all sides of this. Maybe too willing. ( I have ROCD if you were wondering how this ties into this app )

kyla_222

Date posted: 11h

I think you should do what your heart desires. Honestly if I were you though, I wouldnt wait for your ex to come around again because he said it himself he doesnt want you waiting around for him etc ao he obviously doesnt reciprocate the feelings you have for him anymore. He sounds like a total ahole especially with what you said about him commenting on your sex life as if he has control over that. The whole situations hip with your ex in itself sounds very toxic in my opinion, but you do you. Also what is ROCD?

kyla_222

Date posted: 11h

*situationship

bsquiggled

Date posted: 10h

@kyla_222 Its relationship OCD, it’s the worst form of OCD I’ve ever had 🫠 he holds a lot of disdain because of me. I was convinced I liked other people, I was worried about every time I spoke to a guy, etc. so I understand how my ex feels. The worst thing is I actually know he reciprocates my feelings, we’ve recently had several talks about it and he says he can’t date me at least right now due to my ROCD feelings, but he wanted me to get better and there was still a chance. It’s all a mess… I’m just worried about the guilt of seeing someone else after promising him I wouldn’t. Ugh. Idk

kyla_222

Date posted: 9h

@bsquiggled Hmm interesting, I also feel convinced that i have a crush on someone else too even though im in a committed and happy relationship of 2 years. We have talked about it and i dont have any intention of acting on it so my partner doesnt really care about the crush. Just because you have feelings for someone else doesnt always mean you want to act upon them, and its not like you chose to have this disorder. If he cant see you anymore because you have feelings for someone else that just sounds like jealousy and thats a him problem. And also its not like yall are locked in so you shouldn't have to promise him anything about having relationships with other people if you were to pursue them.

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 9h

Hi!! I went through ROCD with my first relationship it was awful. I actually ended up engaged to him. I spent years going back on forth if he loved me or if I loved him. At one point I even thought I might not be interested in men in general. I unfortunately do not have any advice for you as after almost a decade that relationship ended. I’m in a new relationship now and honestly my ROCD has gone. Maybe it’s tied to a specific person I’m not sure, but you are valid in how you are feeling and I understand how difficult it is to go through. Whatever the outcome OCD sucks lol ❤️

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