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Relocating for My OCD But What About Racism
Im seriously considering relocating to the UK, Australia, Canada or US, partly because I feel like the uncertainty, corruption and inconsistency here can really aggravate my OCD, especially at work. I’ve been ChatGPTing English-speaking countries with stronger corporate cultures around ethics, compliance and reporting. One of the things I’m hoping for in moving is a more structured corporate environment clearer rules, stronger compliance culture, regulators being taken seriously, processes being documented, self-reporting when things go wrong, etc. I could absolutely be idealising it, but I feel like more predictability at work might help my anxiety. And just an honesty element in the population. For anyone who has lived or worked in these countries, does that description actually match your experience? I don’t mind anecdotal answers. I also wanted to ask specifically from a POC perspective: what has your lived experience of racism been like, and how has it affected your mental health? I already deal with racial microaggressions and sometimes find them exhausting. I also feel unsafe as a woman in my home country, so part of me wonders whether relocating might reduce some stresses while introducing completely different ones. The internet and the news scare me, especially stories about racism in policing, healthcare and everyday life. I don’t want to minimise those experiences at all, they are real, serious and part of why I’m asking. What I’m trying to understand is whether my OCD/anxiety sometimes takes those very real risks and magnifies how likely I feel they are to happen to me in ordinary day-to-day life. For example, would I constantly feel like I have to monitor my tone around police, doctors or colleagues, advocate for myself, or worry about being perceived as angry rather than passionate, frustrated or legitimately aggrieved? As an example, gender-based violence is a very real problem where I live, and crime in general means people are understandably careful. But I think my anxiety takes that real risk to another level. I don’t like going out at night. I dress very conservatively because I’m scared of being raped, even though I know a rapist is responsible for rape, not someone’s clothes, and that dressing differently could never guarantee my safety anyway. At home I lock every door and window, sleep with pepper spray nearby, and sometimes make myself feel like a hostage in my own home. In crowded places I almost always have a hand on my bag or valuables. I’m generally much less fearful during the day, but overall I know I am another level of fearful and vigilant. So that is really what I’m trying to understand about racism abroad too. I don’t want anyone to tell me the risks are imaginary, because they aren’t. I want to know what everyday life actually feels like for POC in those countries, and whether my OCD/anxiety might take real events and real systemic problems and make me feel as though I need to be on high alert all the time. I tried asking a talkspace therapist once but she didn't answer. So I felt bad for being to nosy or too much. I know nowhere is racism-free. I’m just trying to understand the reality before convincing myself that moving abroad will automatically make working life calmer while potentially aggravating other parts of my life.