Anyone any advice

Basically,, I was out with my friend and she mentioned something to me about like she just brought it up while we were waiting for our food and she said like oh do you know if it’s normal if sometimes like I remember something that happened years ago or a year ago, and I don’t know if I dreamt it or not and she was trying to ask like does she have any problems and I kinda I didn’t get mad at her. But I got mad in my head because you know as someone who has false memory OCD I was like is she trying to claim to have it because I know sometimes she did make comments like that she has OCD in a laughing way and that annoyed me and now I wanna bring it up to her again and say like what you said like it’s normal to not remember something like you don’t have any illnesses but at the same time I think she already forgot and I don’t wanna bring it up again, so what should I do by again? I cannot let it now. I cannot just let it rest because like I need her to know I hate when she like tries to claim to have something which I struggle with.

Lelaa

Date posted: 13h

Also she called it derealization, i think she thinks she has that and not OCD, but i also struggled with derealization and thats not what that is

Lelaa

Date posted: 13h

Anyway, I think I’m mad because I feel like when she claims to have like things that I struggle with it takes away my struggle from it like I feel like then mine is not valid right even though I know she doesn’t have OCD I know it’s bad to say about someone, but I know that she’s the type of person who would like say oh I’m so OCD because she’s organized you know

Kei1

Date posted: 13h

@Lelaa A lot of people try to claim having ocd but wouldn’t want ocd if they actually knew what it was it’s definitely okay for you to express how you feel especially if she knows you struggle with ocd

Lelaa

Date posted: 13h

@Kei1 Well, she doesn’t know I don’t go around saying it to anybody because i. It’s not easy to talk about , I get mad when she makes comments like this like she’s trying to find problems in her life and and I’m sitting here hiding it from everyone, you know I kinda I wanna ask her again about it, but I don’t wanna bring it up so many times, but I don’t know what to do

Anonymous

Date posted: 11h

if you did bring it up with her, and it went really well and you felt great about it, what do you imagine you would get out of that? what do you most want out of the conversation?

Lelaa

Date posted: 11h

@Anonymous Well, I didn’t exactly bring it up, but I kinda just when she mentioned it I kinda said It’s normal and I changed the conversation because I was I didn’t wanna take my frustrations out on her but then later I asked her again about it like, what did you mean by that and she just explained like how she doesn’t sometimes remember if she dreamt of something or it really happened so I didn’t really speak to her about it. I swept it away because I didn’t wanna be angry at her. I know it’s not her fault. She doesn’t know about my personal struggles but the thing I wanna get out of the conversation is that she stops using like those real terms and those real illnesses like just say like oh I have it. that kind of bothered me you know.

Lelaa

Date posted: 11h

@Anonymous Basically, I want her to stop mentioning real mental illnesses to describe that maybe one day she’s feeling sad and then you know saying she has that and that because sh she told me like she maybe has OCD because she sometimes leaves a bite of her food on the plate and I got angry, but I just changed the conversation and then she like those little things bother me, but I don’t not want to bring it up to her again because I’m not ready for that kind of conversations with her because I do not want to tell her about my own struggle

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