Worries and change. Any advice?

I’ve been feeling so worried about my health lately . I don’t want to name any of the illnesses I’ve been fearing to not trigger anyone but I’ve been constantly thinking the worst is going to happen. I even get anxious about how the recovery and treatment process would be for the scary illness thoughts and thinking of having to stay in the hospital for long periods of time gives me anxiety. It’s not even a reality but these thoughts freeze me with fear. I get tics from my anxiety since I was a kid. Facial tics, neck movements and sometimes feel the need to repeat words and stuff but i get worried about them sometimes. Now with the change aspect, Lord willing, I’ll be getting married soon but the thing is we’ve been long distance and I’d be moving out of state to where he lives. My loved ones know and they’ve all been supportive but it makes me beyond anxious to think of not having my safety people around which include my family and best friend. I’ve cried so hard about this where my fiancé has felt bad about it cause his intention was to never “take me away” and he feels like maybe I just don’t wanna marry him but that’s not the case. This change is scaring me so bad. I think oh what if something bad happened, I can’t go and just visit my loved ones or they can’t just come to me right away, the people I’ve had literally all my life. The thought of missing them and not having them around is getting to me so bad.

Health Concern OCD

Wolverine li...

Date posted: 13h

I’m a sufferer of health anxiety and OCD but have recently gotten it under control. This has helped me. Maybe it’ll help you. Imagine OCD is a drug addict you’ve known your whole life. Their drug of choice is you obsessing over something. That’s all it cares about. Knowing that, that can apply to any of your themes, including health. If it knows you will obsess about your health, then it will keep feeding you thoughts to “trap” you about your health. Symptoms. Tics. Aches. Your #1 job is to not feed into it. Do not fall for the trap. Anything that you feel you need to obsess about - even things that you think would make you responsible - you simply do not. You ask yourself how does a non-OCD sufferer handle these things? Maybe they’re more curious about it. Maybe they say I’ll go to a doctor in a few weeks when they have the time. Maybe they ask their doctor next annual checkup. What they don’t do is obsess or feel anxious or ruminate or ask themselves thousands of questions for which they don’t have the answers. So as hard as it is, to get through this, you have to understand the game OCD is playing. Then separate rational actions toward your health scares and irrational actions. And everytime you feel an irrational thought you simply say to yourself “maybe it is, maybe it isn’t, but in order to find out I need to sit with this until my brain exits fight or flight, and then I’ll know what path to take.” As long as you don’t spiral out into the compulsion, you will get through this. Trust a fellow sufferer.

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Date posted: 12h

@Wolverine lives on Thank you so much. I really really appreciated this.

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