How do i stop thinking everyone hates me?

Probably not ocd related but i feel like ppl might relate to this cause ocd tends to make us overthink a lot. Might be because i got bullied elementary-high school, but it’s not like i didn’t have friends. I’m still close friends with people I’ve known since elementary and even made new friends in college. I started a new job recently and my coworkers are basically their own friend group and i got added to their group chat where they make plans and i guess I’m invited? I went out to dinner with them a few times but we’re not close and it feels weird integrating into an already established group and I’m scared everyone talks sh*t about me even if they’re nice to me. Someone could invite me somewhere and if they say anything along the lines of “it’s okay if you can’t come,” i start thinking it’s just to be nice and they actually don’t want me there 😭 I’ve tried reminding myself I’m new and it’ll take time. And if they hated me they probably wouldnt invite me to things and would talk about it in a separate group chat (now I’m scared that they do bc that thought just occurred to me). And I’m scared ill never actually fit in with them or click with them the way they click with each other because it just feels lonely sometimes. And i often think my childhood friends are just friends with me out of convenience or familiarity. Sometimes i think they’re friends with me because i’m a good ego boost (because my life is such a mess compared to theirs). I don’t want to think that way about my friends and it’s not a reflection on them, i know I’m just insecure. And the problem with these insecurities is that they won’t go away because i’ll never have a clear answer about how people feel about me. I can love myself and accept myself but i want other people to do that too. I don’t want to be lonely. And i know I’m not lonely and I’m grateful for the people in my life but i *feel* lonely because i don’t trust it if i can’t find reasons why they keep me around because my reasons aren’t their reasons. Any advice would be appreciated or someone please let me know I’m not alone in this feeling

Lalillie

Date posted: 20h

You’re not alone, I feel this very deeply and relate because I also got bullied in elementary. It’s left a weird lasting effect on my self perception and esteem with girl friends. I have this feeling that they’re always judging me or I’m not being up to their standards. Wow I’ve never said that out loud… and it’s hindered me from trying to make more girl friends. I have managed to make a few friends that have lasted years which I’m so grateful for. I’d rather have a few good ones than many acquaintances. I’m still learning how to process these feelings though because it really affects my social life and being able to go out and hang with my boyfriend’s friends. I always try to find a way out because I fear they’ll judge me and think I’m not up to his par. So I guess I’m just able to relate, you’re not alone. I’ve never really confronted this part of myself that much until now so thank you for sharing

ihateithere

Date posted: 19h

ur not alone, junior/senior year of high school my compulsion was to ask ppl if they hated me and it was a self fulfilling prophecy

I hate this

Date posted: 14h

Oooh it’s me! I think everyone hates me so much!

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