I need support and any sort of response helps 💔💔😭😭

I think I’m sexually attracted to everyone. I’m serious. If I picture sex with ANYONE I have the same reaction. I can’t feel it no matter who it is. My partner found out that I did this towards someone and got angry and believes I shouldn’t be sexually attracted to anyone else. I confessed to one but now there’s more- if I imagine sex with my ex, my neighbor, a friend- I have the same reaction and groinal response. I had to confess it and now he probably won’t talk to me ever again. I don’t know what to do anymore. My partner is very against the idea of this and I don’t know how to make it stop. I don’t want to feel this. After a huge breakdown he told me that it’s okay, he’s not mad he just wants me to get better but I can’t be with him if I have these feelings. And they’re not unwanted intrusive thoughts, it’s a thought I’ll have to see how I’d feel and then the feeling is usually yeah, I’d do that. Why??? People say this is normal but it’s a boundary in my relationship to NOT have sexual attraction to others. I also don’t mean like a simple “damn he’s hot!” becuase we both do this, I mean *feeling it* when I imagine scenarios with said people.

CatGee

Date posted: 7h

I’m so sorry. This sounds incredibly difficult. I think it’s important that you be kind with yourself: these thoughts are OCD. If you stick to OCD therapy and ERP, things will improve. I wouldn’t confess or discuss these thoughts with your partner because that in itself is a compulsion. I’ve had great success telling my husband that I’m “struggling with OCD or anxiety” but not give any specific details.

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 7h

Honestly OCD makes things feel as reeaaaall as they can get. And it gets worse the more we chase certainty and clarity, sadly. :( The more we ruminate about what it all means, the more our brains will turn up the volume. I know it’s not easy AT ALL, but I would start by not trying to find the meaning behind all these thoughts/sensations and try “placing the bet” that it’s OCD. This could look like telling yourself “Okay, I don’t need to figure out the answer to this right this second. I’m going to go back to what I was doing before I got sucked in.” Hope that helps at all❤️

Col3416

Date posted: 4h

I mean as long as u don’t actually try and talk to the people and like get with them or something it’s not that bad and u shouldn’t stress over it especially cus it’s something u can’t control

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