The attraction feels so true even though it upsets me im still thinking that its true and i dont know ejat to do. I know this COULD be how ocd gets u but it could just aswell be the truth? I dont know what to do i dont mnow how to figure it out or be certain. pls dont say stuff about maybe or uncertainty bc its not the only way to heal and it doesn't work for a theme like this iykyk
My therapist says you can never give OCD enough information to be certain. I thought that saying naybe/maybe not with my theme wouldnāt work either (so-ocd) but it does. Because maybe a million things not just the thing the OCD says. Maybe I am, maybe Iām not, maybe Iāll turn into a purple elephant and win the lottery, WE DONāT KNOW! Unfortunately we can never be sure either. But I will say because of ERP things are so much better.
I said pls dont say that. Its pocd. Im not maybe ing sometbing so important. And uncertainty isn't the only way to get bettter its just the most common way
@š¤ Except pocd is literally the example used by my therapist for my āmaybe/maybe notā and āupping the anteā skill building. It does work, even if itās not easy and feels awful. Thatās what exposure therapy is.
@š¤ Just a thought - if you tell your brain this topic is "so important" and it needs to be treated differently, you're telling your brain and your ocd "yes please focus more on this." Being able to accept that you have these fears is an important part of coping and teaching your brain that it doesn't need to keep freaking out about this. The fears are there, and you can handle them. As someone who has successfully managed pocd for years, I know that it feels like you could never accept those fears, but if you do over time they become much less relevant. The less you give in to rumination and reassurance-seeking, the less your ocd will keep pushing this stuff on you. It tells your brain "this fear doesn't need to take over my life" instead of encouraging it. What worked for me was accepting uncertainty, but however you approach it, this topic doesn't need to be any more important than another. The more we treat it as just another ocd fear and suggestion out of a million possibilities, the more we learn how not to trust our ocd no matter what awful thing it tells us. Best of luck! It takes a lot of work but you're not alone
@DanielleH0911 But I specifically asked not to say that under my post. Its not about what u think is true its about respecting my easy wish
Reassurance seeking is harmful to ocd. We donāt know you and canāt tell you anything for certain. Yeah, it could be ocd and yeah, it could be the truthā¦ thatās āmaybe/maybe notā just using different words. Thatās one of the basic pillars of ERP, even if itās uncomfortable. None of us will ever find certainty within OCD, we have to find coping.
Many years ago accpeting uncertainty was the only way to heal from ocd untill recent research found out that the reason some ocd people werent improving was bc uncertainty isn't the onlt recovery tactic and doesn't help eberyone. If u disagreed woth me u could've just scrolled instead of saying this
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