New here. I have suffered from relationship ocd in all of my relationships. I fixate very bad on if my boyfriend is cheating on me or has done something to me. This has lead me to go to the extremes to find “something out”. Has anyone else dealt with relationship ocd and concurred it? I really would like it to go away because it causes a lot of stress in my relationships!
Same. I agree totally with everything that you said. It really resonated with me so I thank you very much. 😊
Hey! I’m actually on here right now looking for support for relationship OCD. It’s truly debilitating and has harmed my relationships, as well. No matter what my boyfriend does, it feels like my brain has to find something wrong with it and spiral about whether that means if I like him or not. It’s genuinely exhausting. A super important thing is ERP and also to push yourself to do your own exposures. If you know you want to go to extremes to find things out, then don’t do it. Do some breathing exercises, go for a walk. But don’t do it. As you continue to expose yourself to those uncomfortable things, it will slowly get better.
@toots_phones Totally agree!
@jennyyyb It’s so so soooo exhausting tho. I think I’ve cried two times this week about just being completely mentally exhausting and wishing with everything I have to not think this way :(
@toots_phones Hang in there!
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Happy to share! Catching the panic and naming it as OCD is a genuinely useful skill, and one thing worth watching for: "sorry, that was my OCD" can quietly start doing the same job the questions were doing — if saying it out loud is what finally lets the anxiety drop, it can become its own subtle reassurance compulsion. The goal in ERP isn't to stop the doubt from showing up or to get it resolved quickly, it's to let it sit there unanswered long enough that your brain stops treating every relationship feeling as something that needs checking. "What Happens in Relationship OCD (ROCD) Treatment? Explanation and Examples" https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/what-are-rocd-exposures-explanation-and-examples Shows what ROCD exposures actually look like in practice, which is helpful when you've reached the point of recognizing the panic but aren't sure what to do instead of asking your partner. "Steps To Break the Reassurance-Seeking Pattern" https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/steps-to-break-the-reassurance-seeking-pattern Written by Stacy Quick, LPC, this one breaks down the exact loop you described — the questions, the brief relief, the doubt coming back — and gives concrete steps for pulling back on reassurance without white-knuckling it. Are you working with a therapist who specializes in OCD specifically, or more of a general therapist? 💬 Was this response helpful? Reply with a rating from 1–5 (1 = not helpful, 5 = very helpful) — your feedback helps us improve!
This is my strongest theme. I’m trying to get better. It’s very hard but opening up about it to my partner helps because when I do actually start asking questions, I can say out loud, “sorry, that was my ocd” and then try to move on. I’ve got to a point where I’ve realised I panic over everything to do with my relationship, so when I panic, I grab myself back by realising it’s just OCD
@Dannyr That’s a really great idea! I’ve read when you have the thoughts, recognizing them as being your OCD is what helps ground your thinking!
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