someone please help. idk what to even do 😩😩😩

21+ and gross tmi 😩⚠️⚠️⚠️ I just found something out that’s gonna haunt the rest of my life- I have an STD. I know it’s gross but my OCD got a hold on it and I have NO IDEA what to do now. I don’t know who it’s from and I’m getting false memory but here’s the thing- I had a partner for 8 months and neither of us had any signs of it. The last time I saw him was 2 weeks ago. I thought I’d venture off and try my first “casual” hookup, and somewhere along the lines I started getting my symptoms. I can’t remember if the symptoms started the day BEFORE I saw the other person, or the day after. So now i’m really confused and I can’t relax at all. Should I discuss this with the guy that I saw? Do I ask him if he has a disease/signs of one? It’s not to be accusatory but I need to get to the bottom of it or I’ll feel horrible forever. As far as I know my ex partner to this day has zero signs at all. What do I do.. how do I remember this timeline right 😩😩 people say the day after seems a bit too soon but I don’t know?? I HAVE TO FIGURE THIS OUT ITS KILLING ME!!

Jerseyborn

Date posted: 8h

🫂..I really don't know what to say in this situation but to show you support.

Tee10

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 8h

Some people don’t experience any symptoms with STDs, that’s the scary part. People spread them so easily without even knowing they have them, that’s why it’s important to use protection. (Chlamydia for example usually shows zero signs and someone can be a carrier of it while still testing negative. It can sometimes take up to three weeks to be detected as positive after exposure.) Give yourself grace and just use this as a learning experience. Anybody you’ve recently been sexually active with certainly needs to know your status regardless of the timeline/technicalities. Having honest conversations about these things is the responsible thing to do and please don’t feel ashamed in doing so. It will also give you peace of mind.

raspberrycheer

Date posted: 8h

@Tee10 I agree with this, however I have no way to contact my ex + it was a horrible situation and I cannot talk to him. I’m trying to bring it to my recent partner but I’m worried he’s just going to tell everyone I have it even though it’s not my fault :/

Tee10

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 8h

@raspberrycheer First of all, this guy sounds like a wildly immature douche and I’m sorry you even have to worry about an adult behaving that way. He would look stupid if he told anyone because he could be giving other people the impression that he could also be infected. You could say something like, “Hey, I wanted to let you know that I recently tested positive for ____. I’m not saying that you gave it to me but since we’ve been together, I wanted to make sure you knew so you can get tested and treated if necessary. I’d want someone to tell me if the situation were reversed. I’m asking that you please keep this between us as this is private medical information and I’m trusting you with it.” If you absolutely want to avoid telling him, ask your health department or healthcare provider about confidential partner notification. Idk what state you’re in but Texas DSHS has Disease Intervention Specialists who can notify partners without revealing the identity of the person who tested positive. Perhaps try looking into your state’s health department and see how to navigate this situation. Sooner rather than later. Best of luck to you!

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