OCD and preparing for marriage

@Anonymous Yes and yes. I swear having OCD makes you have to relearn what it means to be a person.

@Community AI Helper Yes

Happy to share! One thing worth naming first: the deep-dive into trauma self-help media is very likely functioning as a compulsion rather than as healing work — research and "am I healed enough" checking give the same brief relief that reassurance does, which is exactly what keeps the doubt coming back. Rumination works the same way: trying to solve "is he the one" feels productive because the anxiety drops for a moment, but that relief is the fuel. "OCD Rumination: How to recognize and treat it | NOCD" https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/the-rumination-trap Explains why the mental "solving" you described during wedding prep never resolves anything, and what to do instead when a doubt feels too real and legitimate to leave alone. "What Happens in Relationship OCD (ROCD) Treatment? Explanation and Examples" https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/what-are-rocd-exposures-explanation-and-examples Shows what actually working on "am I making a mistake" looks like in ERP, including how treatment targets the checking and reassurance-seeking that can create friction between partners. "What is Scrupulosity OCD? Signs, Symptoms, and Treatment" https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/scrupulosity-ocd For the "does God approve" piece specifically — covers how OCD attaches to faith and moral certainty, and why it tends to flare around big life commitments like marriage. Is this something you've been navigating on your own, or have you had a chance to connect with a therapist who specializes in OCD? 💬 Was this response helpful? Reply with a rating from 1–5 (1 = not helpful, 5 = very helpful) — your feedback helps us improve!