Living with ocd around my family

I think this one really depends on who you have surrounding you, of course I can understand that it can’t be easy to live around someone with ocd, but I do believe that sometimes people can be overly harsh? I don’t want to invalidate the feelings of the people who live around me, but I also hate the fact that I have to feel completely responsible for a disorder that I never asked to have in the first place. I’ll have my parents talk to me about how much my disorder “stresses them out”, and while yes of course I can understand that, I just wish that they could see that a) I try when I can, and b) it’s also extremely difficult FOR ME TOO. Sometimes they talk to me and describe my ocd as if it’s something that I want to live with, it’s absolutely NOT. I can’t expect someone who doesn’t live with it to understand every small thing about what it’s like, but I just wish that they could see that it’s harder than it looks, not engaging in compulsions is so difficult, it’s like if I was to ask one of them to blindly walk into a room, the room will either be completely safe, or the room will have no floor, and they’ll fall into a deep pool of man-eating piranhas, they probably wouldn’t want to take that risk. Yet that’s how it can feel every time someone with ocd says no to engaging in a compulsion or ritual. Uncertainty, fear, discomfort. I just wish that they could see that too

starlight.se...

Date posted: Yesterday

Yeah I relate to this so much my parents never understand me and they always saying that I’m “just bored” and they always saying that “its my mind so I can control it” but thats literally not what OCD is like. And I feel the same like you like I have to be responsible for a mental disorder that I never asked and wanted to have in the first place plus I have to do everything alone, no psychiatrist, no therapist, no parents, no friends nothing and I feel so lonely… but for me is the opposite my parents don’t give a single fuck about my illness like they are narcissistic and selfish and they only talk about themselves and their own problems just because they are “psychical” like any problem matters even if its mental or psychical like i don’t get the comparison can we please just treat any problem as a problem. And yesss i get that a lot with the understanding like yes I don’t want anyone to understand 100% witch is of course impossible but just because you don’t understand something that doesn’t mean you have to judge it or criticize it, like for example I don’t understand Bipolar people like how can they change their state so fast but that doesn’t mean I have to judge them or criticize them for it there’s a difference.

illy_yan

Date posted: Yesterday

@starlight.seeker.stella omg definitely, like even if someone doesn’t understand something, they should still have empathy for another persons situation!! I’m really sorry to hear about your parents, and I hope that with time they can become more understanding. Any form of ocd is horrible to live with and I hope that things are able to get better for you, handing it all on your own can be really difficult though, but I think this app is definitely a great place to start, even just connecting with, and hearing the advice and experiences of others who understand can be at least a little bit helpful!!

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