- Username
- bluberries
- Date posted
- 4y ago
- Username
- bluberries bluberries
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I just feel lonely, and i want to be able to share myself with my partner without over doing bc I’m a private person, i can’t allow myself to tell other ppl, it’s not safe i cannot trust that they will understand and things are usually just too embarrassing to telll... but idk.
- Username
- LanieLanie
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he knows everything. He helps me through my toughest times and fully understands my ocd. My mother has helped him fully grasp what ocd is and what my brain goes though. If your partner wants to understand and be there for you, nothing should be unshared. The better they can grasp it, the easier it is for them to help you in the long run. If it’s meant to be it, it’s meant to be. Share with them how they can help and how they can be ther for you. I found the most helpful thing was what my mom shared with him. She said “imagine you had a terrible thought, and it repeated in your brain over and over until you performed an action that you know would releave it. That’s what ocd is and it repeats onto the next thought over and over.” Share that. I hope it helps :)
- Username
- MeandmyocdMeandmyocd
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I always feel the same about telling someone I have OCD. I’ve only ever told one person that I’ve been with- and I was with him for 4 years before I told him! I’ve recently been thinking about being more open about my OCD and have realised that I don’t have to tell people the details of it, if they want to know then they can ask and if I want to tell them I can and otherwise, that’s fine. It’s a personal thing and not telling someone the details doesn’t mean you’re lying or holding back, it just means it’s super personal and anyone worth being with would respect that.
- Username
- nuibuddynuibuddy
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Be honest. Trust that she truly wants to help. You know the situation best. Only you can judge what is your compulsion to confess and what is your heart wishing to connect.
- Username
- bluberries bluberries
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I appreciate yalls insight. I just get paranoid that if this relationship shall end, she might accidentally spill my secrets even tho she says she won’t. And i do trust her but i just idk i guess i never shared anything and i never know what’s okay to share? But i guess that feeling in your gut will let u know right ? I know that I’m just overthinking it. I just sometimes can’t tell if I’m hiding too much is she really in love with ‘me’ ?
- Username
- MeandmyocdMeandmyocd
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Totally understand how you feel. I’m the exact same when it comes to relationships. I spoke with my therapist about it today and she helped me realise that even if people were to share that I had OCD after a breakup- what would be so bad about this? Remember OCD doesn’t define you and anyone worthwhile will just want to help and support you. If they don’t then they’re not worth your time!
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- rosecoloredgirl
- Date posted
- 3y ago
need help or tips? i've been spiraling because i have confession compulsion and i have this fear that once my boyfriend finds out the themes of my OCD, he'll leave me. he loves me and tells me he'll always be by my side but before i kind of confessed that my mind kind of has his followers memorized because of compulsions i've performed before and he admitted that it slightly turned him off because "damn that's something else" but it wasn't a dealbreaker... can't help but think if he thinks that's something else then he is definitely gonna be turned off after he finds out about my POCD especially now it kind of involved his younger nephew or about Harm OCD or Pure O Really need help to overcome this. I have this urge to confess to him and try to make him understand to get that reassurance from him that even after knowing these he won't leave me but I also don't want to bc not a lot of people will understand or be comfortable about it esp we've only been together for a few months
- Username
- EFF_OCD
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Having a partner with no ocd/anxiety
Does anyone else have a partner with almost no anxiety/OCD. I guess opposites attract but my gosh it can you make you feel so alone and isolated in the relationship. Or more so just “less than”. The “crazy one”. I’ll even convince myself I’m not good enough for him because he has such good mental health. I’ve been honest about my ocd with him but I’ve never shared with him my intrusive thoughts that are taboo. Especially harm ocd because he literally has almost next to no anxiety (I’m jealous lol) Do you guys think it’s completely necessary to tell your partner everything about your ocd? Confessing is a huge compulsion of mine so it’s difficult to keep it from him but I’m afraid he’d think I am nuts. I am just not ready.
- Username
- olivia1997
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Confessing everything to partner?
I have dealt with ocd confessing for quite a few years now but I have the urge to confess everything bad I’ve ever done to my partner and I’m scared if we get married that I’m not being honest if I don’t tell him about my past - (sleeping around) there was also a cross over where I was speaking to another guy whilst me and my current partner were getting to know each other. I have also spoke to a few guys in the club or pub (only friendly conversations, no flirting) whilst we have been in a relationship which I didn’t think was a big deal at the time but I feel like I’m going to end up loosing him by confessing everything I’ve ever done when I know it’s not a big deal in hindsight, I feel physically sick about this. Does anyone have advise or similar experience?
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