Ive been in a relationship for 2 years, this past year i have been more honest with my partner of my disorder, i want to be honest so bad bc i just want to feel free and allow myself vulnerability. I never ever have been able to confess my thoughts to a single soul before this current relationship ship. And for some reason i trust her. But i read things on here about it’s not good to over confess and truth is i still keep Allot from her bc i just can’t bear to know what she’ll think or even if she’d even tell me honestly. When am i over sharing? Bc now i haven’t told my deepest things but i feel like maybe i should back off. She wants to be here for me, she really does but i know that my spirals make her sad and drained. (She has zero mental health issues) i just feel like I’m going to be forever hiding myself from quite literally everyone.. even myself. Any advice?

I just feel lonely, and i want to be able to share myself with my partner without over doing bc I’m a private person, i can’t allow myself to tell other ppl, it’s not safe i cannot trust that they will understand and things are usually just too embarrassing to telll... but idk.

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he knows everything. He helps me through my toughest times and fully understands my ocd. My mother has helped him fully grasp what ocd is and what my brain goes though. If your partner wants to understand and be there for you, nothing should be unshared. The better they can grasp it, the easier it is for them to help you in the long run. If it’s meant to be it, it’s meant to be. Share with them how they can help and how they can be ther for you. I found the most helpful thing was what my mom shared with him. She said “imagine you had a terrible thought, and it repeated in your brain over and over until you performed an action that you know would releave it. That’s what ocd is and it repeats onto the next thought over and over.” Share that. I hope it helps :)

I always feel the same about telling someone I have OCD. I’ve only ever told one person that I’ve been with- and I was with him for 4 years before I told him! I’ve recently been thinking about being more open about my OCD and have realised that I don’t have to tell people the details of it, if they want to know then they can ask and if I want to tell them I can and otherwise, that’s fine. It’s a personal thing and not telling someone the details doesn’t mean you’re lying or holding back, it just means it’s super personal and anyone worth being with would respect that.

Be honest. Trust that she truly wants to help. You know the situation best. Only you can judge what is your compulsion to confess and what is your heart wishing to connect.

I appreciate yalls insight. I just get paranoid that if this relationship shall end, she might accidentally spill my secrets even tho she says she won’t. And i do trust her but i just idk i guess i never shared anything and i never know what’s okay to share? But i guess that feeling in your gut will let u know right ? I know that I’m just overthinking it. I just sometimes can’t tell if I’m hiding too much is she really in love with ‘me’ ?