Lossing hope I need help!

Hey, I am a 16 year old student and honestly my OCD and anxiety are at their peak these days. Its getting so bad that I feel like I am losing control over my life and I genuinely dont know what to do anymore. I have a lot of problems talking to my parents and explaining what I am going through, so getting professional help feels almost impossible. There is also a lot of tension with my relatives due to jealousy and family issues, which causes me even more stress. I went through a lot of bullying at school a couple years ago, so I now do online classes and have practically no friends to talk to. I feel really alone and have nobody I can properly open up to. My OCD is badly affecting my academics. My September exams went badly because of it and I have important exams coming up again. I constantly struggle with breathing, chest heaviness and sweaty hands and legs. I keep repeating specific sentences and replaying mental movies to ease my anxiety, and I pace around my room so much that the skin on my feet has become torn. This is happening daily and I can barely focus on studying. My current OCD theme is mainly what if thoughts about relationships and marriage. Having a partner in the future means a lot to me because I am so lonely and hope I will someday have someone I can talk to and share my life with. But OCD keeps making me imagine what if, far in the future, my parents forcefully take me to my relatives house and those relatives hurt my future partner, like burning her and making it look like an accident. These thoughts terrify me and I keep getting trapped in mental movies even though I dont want them. I am starting to lose hope because I feel trapped between my OCD, my studies and my inability to talk to my parents about getting help. I have tried not engaging with the thoughts and basic methods to calm myself, but nothing seems to be working and its taking over my entire day. Please, I genuinely need help. What can I do to get relief without professional support and some relief urgently? I cant keep letting this affect my academics and my entire life like this. I just want someone to understand what I am going through.

Straw hat

Date posted: 17h

Listen I understand what you’re going through my ocd was starting to get at its worst when I was 16. What I can suggest is tell your parents about getting into nocd talk with them on the phone and see if they accept your health insurance bc if you try to fight ocd on it’s on especially with the way you describe it it’ll only get worse. it seems severe so you need to get into therapy with a professional therapist. I tried fighting ocd on my own and it was drastically affected me. Don’t make the same mistake I did get help call the number on NOCD talk with them on the phone about insurance and take care of this issue now while you’re young. Listening to videos and advice from other people all the time can only take u so far only a licensed therapist can help you atp.

Obito Uchiha

Date posted: 4h

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me. I really do want professional help but I just cant talk to my parents about this stuff and I dont have any health insurance I can access rn. I feel really stuck and dont know what to do. Is there anything else I can try to get help in my situation? I really appreciate your advice.

Anonymous

Date posted: 17h

TRUST me when I tell you it will get better. You will NOT feel this way for your entire life nor will you feel this way for a long time. At your age you have crazy hormones (which make you feel very real things) and you are just beginning to sort your independence. Are you seeing a therapist on NOCD? Or are you just talking to others with OCD? What state are you in? Do you have health insurance? You may not need to tell your parents if you can access your health insurance card and your state allows it. Otherwise you have any resources at school? You can seek counseling at school usually without parental consent I believe. When you are an adult, and you are in a relationship YOU will make the choice to bring your partner around your family or not. You don't have to do ANYTHING you aren't comfortable with once you reach independence.

Obito Uchiha

Date posted: 4h

Thank you so much for replying to me it genuinely means a lot. I dont have health insurance that I can access and I also do online classes because of all the bullying and school drama I went through, so I dont have access to school councellors either. I am mostly just at home the whole day. I will probably leave for college when I turn 18 in around 2 years and hopefully get therapy then but my OCD is getting really bad rn and waiting that long feels impossible. Is there anything I can do to get better right now at home alone? I really appreciate you taking the time to help me.

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