ROCD

I’ve had ROCD off and on for most my life. I have also been married for over 20 years. It’s hard work and dedication. As long as your partner is aware of your condition and knows not to feed you reassurance you can do this. Just remember, the more your OCD wants to F up your relationship, the more you Value it 😂. Also we are not the only ones that struggle with this. My wife has CPTST from a rough childhood and trauma from a bad parent. She spent part of the first 15 years our relationship trying to self sabotage because she also feared I would leave or hurt her. Somehow 26 years later we are still together and even have grand kids. It took a lot of work and dedication and therapy…. But if it’s not hard it’s not worth it I guess. Good luck with your new boo and wish you all the best!!

you’re definitely not alone ❤️ i’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and in the beginning, my ROCD was exactly like this (and to be perfectly honest, it still is). what’s helped strangely is my boyfriend has stopped giving me reassurance when he knows it’s an OCD thought. he’ll answer a question once, but then if i ask again he’ll say something like “i’ve already answered that, this is your ocd talking not you”. your partner might not know it but constantly reassuring your thoughts and fears is what’s perpetuating them. once you can identify which is ocd and which is legit, you can separate them in your head. it really helps. and it does get better but you both have to work at it ❤️ good luck ocd baddie

You are so so not alone! If you’ve started therapy through the app, I encourage you to join a group session or two. It has helped me so much in between sessions and just in general to have a community of others who understand how scary OCD can be. There are so many inspiring folks, and sometimes they even are struggling in their journey. My husband and I have been together for 5 years, married 6 months. ROCD has been present during majority of it, sometimes louder than others. Actually knowing it was OCD was a game changer, but I’m still learning how to practice radical acceptance and sit with uncertainty. Glad you are here, it’s a great starting point on your way to recovery!

Hi everyone, I'm also struggling with rocd. But I'm the one who's worried about being the cheater. I had a specific intrusive thought of saying something and that it'd technically be considered cheating. And I don't trust myself. So I feel unsure if it's just a thought or if it's reality. Its completely stressful bc I love my boyfriend very much and I'd never want to hurt him or leave. But he said the only way he'd leave is if I cheated. Ocd finds its way to f up my life and I don't want it to ruin or sabotage my relationship. I'm genuinely scared if I cheated or not and I hope I'm not triggering anyone. I just saw this post and wanted to vent. Thank you

Really struggling with this exact same thing too, to the point that I want to just leave my relationship so I can finally escape my anxious ocd thoughts and fears. But I know that’s not the answer. We have a new 8 week old baby and I joined here so I can try to beat my rocd and keep my family together. You’re not alone we will get through this