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I am just the opposite. I mean yeah I did admire some girls but I just wanted to look like them nothing more but I always did he crushes on boys and I wanted so bad bf. I was boy crazy. But now with this SoCd it’s feels like my brain has changed and I hate it
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I totally understand I always had crushes on girls I just wish I could told my crush how I felt maybe this could have pervent me forming having this SOCD
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for a long time i struggled w what to call myself and was so anxious about labelling myself and doing it correctly. i felt like i was attracted to boys and girls so i called myself bi because i needed the label or else i "wasn't real". but it's been a couple years now and i've been trying to practice not absolutely needing a label, especially if it doesn't feel right. what i've been trying to tell myself is that if i like someone, i'll know. so putting restrictions on it doesn't really matter. i know that that's easier said than done especially w ocd. but i hope it helped a little and that you feel better soon!! :)
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Thank u?
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Maybe you’re gay maybe you’re straight, you can be with whoever you want to be with. I came out as bisexual and I’ve never even been with a girl before. Sometimes I wonder if I’m even bi, but I don’t react to the thoughts with anxiety. The point is not to respond to the what ifs with anxiety. Maybe you’re attracted to them maybe you’re not. No big deal though. Tell yourself it’s okay not to have a clear answer. Live with the uncertainty. Everyone wonders but not everyone stresses.
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Thank u , your so right . Way before I had SOCD I been knew I was gay though . Because my crush that I had in high school I never felt that way about person are a boy .
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Im a 21 year old female in a straight relationship with the best guy a girl could ever ask for. About 2 months ago, I went to get coffee with a friend and as I dropped her off, I got a “weird” vibe from her and the look she gave me which lead to the thought of “should I kiss her”….Ive never had a thought like that before and I never have ever wanted to kiss another girl. I have also never had a desire to be with another girl (sexually or romantically). Now though, I have had one other experience of being with a different friend going to get lunch and it felt weird. Ever since then I have been on google non stop with hundreds of different searches, questioning if im lying to myself of my boyfriend, wondering about my past relationships even though Ive only dated boys, been attracted to boys, crushed on boys, etc… boy crazy! Reading on other forums has been a big thing too or doing quizzes. I believe its SO-OCD but im so scared that what if its not. I am in therapy and actually had two weeks of not even thinking about it or googling it until yesterday. I dont know what to do.
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So I identify as a lesbian and I am in a committed relationship with a wonderful girl. But i’m stressing that I have crushes on boys I go to school with. I get anxious around them, which I think I mistake for excitement. I obsess over it in my head which confuses me a lot. Idk I also never think about them sexually or romantically but I think about them often which is scaring me. Any advice?
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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