- Username
- BG
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Yes, it’s exhausting.
Girlfriend/wife or boyfriend/husband?
My Husband ? I’m always thinking that he is cheating on me, checking his call log and stuff like that
Yes. I always thought I just had “trust issues”. I didn’t realize it was exasperated by my ROCD
I do.
Same here hayleywr....I always thought that I had trust issues. Tqh...I totally understand how it feels. My reassurances go beyond what you are doing ?
Is this a part of ROCD? I thought ROCD just includes doubts about whether you love someone or not.
Before this app i didn’t even know that rocd was a thing, but when I started reading about it, my “jealousy” started making sense. I’m constantly thinking that he doesn’t love me, or that he liked his ex girlfriends more than he likes me, and we’ve had A LOT of problems because of my insecurities. I’m always trying to find ways to hack his phone (unsuccessfully ?) just to mention a few of my issues.
BG, no, it’s much more complex than that. It can also include extreme jealousy, paralyzing fear of abandonment, doubts about whether or not your partner is morally a “good” or “bad” person, constantly fearing/believing they are about to leave you...etc etc. Basically anything that is not a “perfect” love or “perfect” relationship (AKA literally every single normal relationship ?) can set us off. There’s lots more but those are some of the bigger ones
Tqh..... Thanks for sharing your issues. I have the exact same issues with my girlfriend. I have looked into her phone just once. But, I deal with even bigger issues like I have to record everything that we chat and talk to make sure that she didn’t say anything about some other guy.
heyleywr....Thanks for enhancing my knowledge about ROCD. I have all those things that you mentioned. I searched a lot online to find out if excessive doubt and jealousy was part of ROCD, everyone just talked about doubt about loving someone. I feel a bit better now.
BG, you might like to listen to episode 27 of The OCD Stories podcast. It’s a bit long but Dr. Guy Doron goes to great detail in explaining all the forms that ROCD can take. I found it really helpful! They also talk about an app that he developed for ROCD. I’ve been using it and it’s been great so far!
Thanks hayleywr.... Will definitely go through it.
my ROCD constantly makes me think my boyfriend is up to no good when he is a very trustable and respectful guy. does anyone else go through the same thing. i have been putting the poor guy through a lot because of this...
Does anyone every worry about their significant other cheating on them with Rocd?
Hi everyone. I’m alana and I’m 21 years old. I have been in a relationship with a great guy for almost 3 years now. My past with relationships were very crappy and I have a bad past with men period because of my dad not being a father figure for me. In this relationship I am constantly overthinking and doubting everything. Now right now my mind is calm. But when it’s not it’s like a whole thing of destruction going on up there that no one can stop. I see a counselor, I am on medicine for severe depression and anxiety and am on a mood stabilizer as well. I was never diagnosed with OCD though but I know it lingers somewhere. My doubts are always towards my boyfriend. But my depression knocks me down with the thoughts and I don’t even get out of bed. I literally talked to a psychic and she said I have nothing to worry about and so did my counselor. Any advice on how to handle it all?
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