Anyone having unnecessary and excessive doubts on their girlfriend/wife or boyfriend/husband being unfaithful to them?

Yes, it’s exhausting.

Girlfriend/wife or boyfriend/husband?

My Husband ? I’m always thinking that he is cheating on me, checking his call log and stuff like that

Yes. I always thought I just had “trust issues”. I didn’t realize it was exasperated by my ROCD

I do.

Same here hayleywr....I always thought that I had trust issues. Tqh...I totally understand how it feels. My reassurances go beyond what you are doing ?

Is this a part of ROCD? I thought ROCD just includes doubts about whether you love someone or not.

Before this app i didn’t even know that rocd was a thing, but when I started reading about it, my “jealousy” started making sense. I’m constantly thinking that he doesn’t love me, or that he liked his ex girlfriends more than he likes me, and we’ve had A LOT of problems because of my insecurities. I’m always trying to find ways to hack his phone (unsuccessfully ?) just to mention a few of my issues.

BG, no, it’s much more complex than that. It can also include extreme jealousy, paralyzing fear of abandonment, doubts about whether or not your partner is morally a “good” or “bad” person, constantly fearing/believing they are about to leave you...etc etc. Basically anything that is not a “perfect” love or “perfect” relationship (AKA literally every single normal relationship ?) can set us off. There’s lots more but those are some of the bigger ones

Tqh..... Thanks for sharing your issues. I have the exact same issues with my girlfriend. I have looked into her phone just once. But, I deal with even bigger issues like I have to record everything that we chat and talk to make sure that she didn’t say anything about some other guy.

heyleywr....Thanks for enhancing my knowledge about ROCD. I have all those things that you mentioned. I searched a lot online to find out if excessive doubt and jealousy was part of ROCD, everyone just talked about doubt about loving someone. I feel a bit better now.

BG, you might like to listen to episode 27 of The OCD Stories podcast. It’s a bit long but Dr. Guy Doron goes to great detail in explaining all the forms that ROCD can take. I found it really helpful! They also talk about an app that he developed for ROCD. I’ve been using it and it’s been great so far!

Thanks hayleywr.... Will definitely go through it.