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Yes, it’s exhausting.
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Girlfriend/wife or boyfriend/husband?
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My Husband ? I’m always thinking that he is cheating on me, checking his call log and stuff like that
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Yes. I always thought I just had “trust issues”. I didn’t realize it was exasperated by my ROCD
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I do.
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Same here hayleywr....I always thought that I had trust issues. Tqh...I totally understand how it feels. My reassurances go beyond what you are doing ?
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Is this a part of ROCD? I thought ROCD just includes doubts about whether you love someone or not.
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Before this app i didn’t even know that rocd was a thing, but when I started reading about it, my “jealousy” started making sense. I’m constantly thinking that he doesn’t love me, or that he liked his ex girlfriends more than he likes me, and we’ve had A LOT of problems because of my insecurities. I’m always trying to find ways to hack his phone (unsuccessfully ?) just to mention a few of my issues.
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BG, no, it’s much more complex than that. It can also include extreme jealousy, paralyzing fear of abandonment, doubts about whether or not your partner is morally a “good” or “bad” person, constantly fearing/believing they are about to leave you...etc etc. Basically anything that is not a “perfect” love or “perfect” relationship (AKA literally every single normal relationship ?) can set us off. There’s lots more but those are some of the bigger ones
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Tqh..... Thanks for sharing your issues. I have the exact same issues with my girlfriend. I have looked into her phone just once. But, I deal with even bigger issues like I have to record everything that we chat and talk to make sure that she didn’t say anything about some other guy.
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heyleywr....Thanks for enhancing my knowledge about ROCD. I have all those things that you mentioned. I searched a lot online to find out if excessive doubt and jealousy was part of ROCD, everyone just talked about doubt about loving someone. I feel a bit better now.
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BG, you might like to listen to episode 27 of The OCD Stories podcast. It’s a bit long but Dr. Guy Doron goes to great detail in explaining all the forms that ROCD can take. I found it really helpful! They also talk about an app that he developed for ROCD. I’ve been using it and it’s been great so far!
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Thanks hayleywr.... Will definitely go through it.
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I'm struggling really hard with relationship obsessions. Do I really love my partner? How can I know? Am I really just faking it? That kind of thing. It's making my life and relationship a lot harder than they need to be. I could use a few helpful coping mechanisms, trying to move away from less helpful ones like chasing reassurance.
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When my boyfriend and I are apart, it honestly feels like I've lost all feelings for him. I start questioning everything, wondering if I even love him at all. Then, when we're finally together again, the memory of those earlier doubts creeps in and completely ruins the moment. I get so caught up in overthinking and analyzing my feelings that I can't even enjoy being with him. It's like I'm constantly second-guessing myself. The worst part is, sometimes later, when we're still together, I do feel the love. But then the anxiety kicks in again! I start worrying that I'm just faking it because I had those doubts earlier in the day. It's this endless cycle of questioning, doubting, and overthinking, and it's exhausting. I'm really struggling to stay present when we're together, and it feels like this constant cycle is preventing me from truly connecting with him. We have been together for three years and we love together, and I just started feeling this way about a month ago; it’s been almost every day since. One day, I randomly thought about breaking up with him. Our relationship is healthy, especially compared to my previous toxic one, where I was anxiously attached for two and a half years. My boyfriend is very supportive of me. I have talked to him about my doubts and everything I’m experiencing, and he continues to support, care for, and help me through it all. I am very grateful for that. One aspect of my current relationship that I would like to improve is our communication, but we are both willing to work on it together. I often find that my overthinking leads me to question whether I really want to try to fix things or if I’d rather just continue as we are. This creates a constant push and pull in our relationship. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Any advice on how to break this cycle and just be present in the moment? I'd love to hear from anyone who's been through something like this.
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I’ve been struggling with something that’s been really overwhelming, and I’m hoping to get some perspective from others here. I feel a lot of guilt about it, and I’m not sure if I’m alone in this experience. Lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming about romantic situations or getting caught up in ‘what if’ scenarios—where I wonder if I could develop feelings for someone else, or if someone develops feelings for me. The thing is, I’m in a relationship that I love, and I don’t want to act on these thoughts at all. What makes it even harder is that these thoughts often hyperfixate on one specific friend, and sometimes they feel entertaining or give me a dopamine rush. But then, of course, I feel even more guilty because it makes me feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend. These thoughts usually happen when I’m upset and looking for comfort, but then they morph into romantic scenarios, which makes me feel so disloyal. I’m constantly going back and forth between feeling curious or entertained by the thoughts and then feeling horrible for even allowing them to happen in the first place. I keep confessing these thoughts to my boyfriend, and he tries to be understanding. He’s just never been the type to daydream, so he doesn’t know if this is something other people experience or if it’s just me. I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
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