Please, can any of you find it in your hearts to read this and help me? Okay so here’s the situation, I went through a traumatic experience a couple of years ago and have since deleted and gotten rid of everything that has reminded me of it. However, that also includes emails that I’ve sent to people. There was one specific email that I sent to my teacher in high school that I’ve gotten rid of, but the thing that’s really bothering me is the fact that it’s still sitting in her inbox. I want so desperately to remove it, but obviously I can’t. Would it be weird if I reached out to her on Facebook and asked her to delete it? I graduated almost two years ago. And I don’t know if it’s considered crossing a line, but it’s really driving my anxiety through the roof. If I were going to message her about it, how do you think I should go about it? Even though the thought of asking her also cause me anxiety.

Kinda spiraling. In one of my classes there was a girl that was a senior and I was a junior. We got put in a table group of 4 next to eachother for a unit with my friend also there and some girl that I knew from orchestra. I’m now scared if I was too close to her like physically. I never touched her obviously bc that’s weird. I think I was talking to my now gf at the time or maybe even dating her I’m not sure. There was this time we had to play quiziz on our Chromebooks and we got randomly selected in a group together with me her and one of my other guy friends. I’m worried that what if we were too close physically, what if my arm was touching hers or something. I know that my friend Jack was in the middle so he needed to see the screen and I also wouldn’t have went super close to her. I’m writing this bc I’m just super worried. I never talked to her outside of that class and really outside of that unit when everyone moved tables again. Whenever our teacher did demonstrations I feel like I looked at her too much and now I’m scared, even though I just look around but I feel like my eyes went to her. I would never cheat on my gf so this whole situation is bothering me. I also one time just curiously checked if she followed me on insta and we didn’t have eachother added and I saw her bf on her profile and I was like “aww that’s cute”. What if I was acting on attraction in the classroom, I’m scared

I really need help. Almost 3 years ago I was in a discord server with some kids at my school, and it was normal to send funny photos of our face to the group chat. I sent a few silly pictures of me but they are just really embarrassing and stupid. One time, a kid from the group chat sent me a photo I sent and it’s just so bad looking back, and I was really worried about him sending it to others and etc. Later I deleted my account in fear of it being there, even though I couldn’t find it in the group chat at that point. Roughly a year later, I was invited to join this group chat again so I did (2 months ago), but I was looking at the beginning of the groupchat and I saw these photos and it made me start panicking and just worrying if other have these photos saved and if they sent it to other people. It’s been 3 days since I found this and I can’t stop thinking about it, and just worrying because no one can remove these photos without deleting the groupchat, and I know the owner won’t do that. I just keeping thinking about the people in the groupchat seeing these photos and sending it to others because it’s insanely embarrassing to a point where I’m crying thinking about it, and I don’t want others to ever see it. Is there anything I can do to remove these photos?

I was very close friends with a girl last year, so close we were like sisters. But eventually, she treated me and my twin sister terribly. (one upping me, lying to me, trauma dumping on me and not being there for me at all in return, lowkey praying on me and my boyfriend breaking up.) I tried confronting her but it kept getting worse, and with so much stress it came to a head. She came to me saying her boyfriend was doing some really bad things to her. I told her it would get worse, that she needed to leave, and that she was in an unsafe position. She didn’t listen, she insisted she loved him. She would barely tell me because “it would make me mad” Eventually I sobbed to my mom about it, who contacted her mother but nothing was done. The next day, with the stress I was going through being in the middle of competing frequently, college prep, everything she told me, how i felt about her treating me became too much and I blew up at her. I yelled and cussed and to this day I regret it. I would spiral about it. No matter how many times people told me I was okay and my feelings were valid, it took me so long to stop believing I was a terrible person. I tried to cut her off and it didn’t fully happen until she lied to me about coming to a VERY important event and SHE told ME we couldn’t be friends. Since then I’ve had so much hatred towards her but still a lot of care, that it became an obsession. I got to college and told all of my friends about it who validated me. Through this, the hatred wound down. But I still couldn’t help but want to see what she was doing. To me she has always been better than me. I wanted to BE her. I was, and still am, a little jealous of her. She looks perfect, dresses perfect, and just is perfect to everyone. I unblocked her, re followed her, reached out and apologized. She apologized to me, and said she had been thinking about our friendship a lot and was glad I reached out. My parents didn’t like that I reached out because she created tension between me and my sister. My sister says that what I did was valid and supports me. My boyfriend supports me because he loves me so much and will always support me, but still doesn’t like her because of her unsupportiveness of our relationship. My friends question why I would even do something like that. I think it made me feel better, but I think my thoughts and feelings about our friendship, and how much I wanted to be like her, and how much I regretted how our friendship ended, and how betrayed I felt became an obsession for me, and I fear reaching out was a compulsion. She’s been really nice and I’m glad we’re on good terms but I think she wants to be closer than I want to be, simply because she’s in high school, I’m in college, and I don’t think it’s a good idea to be super close again. Idk I think I feel better about it but I’m a little worried. What should I do moving forward? I don’t want to cut her off, but I can’t be best friends with her again.