Does it make me crazy that i miss someone who was emotionally neglectful and abusive to me ? I sometimes Worry it was my fault and that i made them neglect me.

I tried to be there for them and their issues

@ahhhhhhmybrain But she’d say she wanted to kill herself and that my sadness fed into hers saying she needed a more positive person in her life And i tried to be stronger not be sad bug it was so hard. My friend told me that she was being emotionally abusive.

@ahhhhhhmybrain I get it. It is not your responsibility to fix someone, it is their own. Trying to help someone can be exhausting. Time is possible to resolve issues, its possible that the person that you miss realizes their issues and are striving to fix them, if they arent, that’s their loss.

@sorryitsemmy I dont think she did. Thats what was so hard

@ahhhhhhmybrain Okay, I learned a hard lesson following what my friends say, especially if they do not know the person and their personal issues. It could come off as emotional abuse but it may not be intentional, and when its not intentional its typically because the “abuser” is hurting. It’s best to resolve your issues and accept that you cannot change or fix this girl. But- it is possible that if you truly care that it may be able to be worked out. Please don’t see it as your responsbility, though. It is your option.

@ahhhhhhmybrain Was this recent?

@sorryitsemmy It was about 1 month ago.

Has she attempted to reach out, explain, or apologize?

@sorryitsemmy No, she just kept asking what she did wrong. I had explained to her the day before what she was doing to me.

@ahhhhhhmybrain Is she recieving any help for herself? And are you recieving help for you?

@sorryitsemmy Im going to therapy yes. I told her if she was wanting to go to therapy. she followed with, “no my parents will think im crazy” it took her a while, and i understand that theres a stigma about it i didnt judge her for thinking it was weird. But i dont think she ever followed through with it

@ahhhhhhmybrain Okay, im in a similar situation. Except im on the opposite end of this. My medication I was on changed me completely and I mistreated someone I was with. We havent spoken much this month. Im actively seeking help and I have been for months. It is this girl’s choice to decide whether she wants to better herself and whether she’s willing. Reach out if you want, see if anything has changed. If not, decide the best course of action and focus on what would be best for you and your progress! Its possible for people to grow together, its a matter of whether each person is willing

@sorryitsemmy Thank you. I hope everything is okay for you too. Just lmk if you need to talk

@ahhhhhhmybrain Its no problem at all. I hope this clears up for you and you’re able to progress. You got this! Let me know also if you want to talk, I always love to

Dope, okay!!