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It does not make you crazy. Its a possibly that this person has issues of their own that are heavy. If you dont mind me asking, how were they abusive/ neglectful? There may be a wall of miscommunication, if you believe in the person, maybe attempt to talk to them. Don’t put yourself through strain if its not what you want, you’re going to make it through this!
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I tried to be there for them and their issues
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@ahhhhhhmybrain But she’d say she wanted to kill herself and that my sadness fed into hers saying she needed a more positive person in her life And i tried to be stronger not be sad bug it was so hard. My friend told me that she was being emotionally abusive.
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@ahhhhhhmybrain I get it. It is not your responsibility to fix someone, it is their own. Trying to help someone can be exhausting. Time is possible to resolve issues, its possible that the person that you miss realizes their issues and are striving to fix them, if they arent, that’s their loss.
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@sorryitsemmy I dont think she did. Thats what was so hard
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@ahhhhhhmybrain Okay, I learned a hard lesson following what my friends say, especially if they do not know the person and their personal issues. It could come off as emotional abuse but it may not be intentional, and when its not intentional its typically because the “abuser” is hurting. It’s best to resolve your issues and accept that you cannot change or fix this girl. But- it is possible that if you truly care that it may be able to be worked out. Please don’t see it as your responsbility, though. It is your option.
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@ahhhhhhmybrain Was this recent?
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@sorryitsemmy It was about 1 month ago.
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My friends blocked her for me on my phone. And i know she was hurting and i really wanted to be there to hold her hand through the experience she was going through.
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Has she attempted to reach out, explain, or apologize?
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@sorryitsemmy No, she just kept asking what she did wrong. I had explained to her the day before what she was doing to me.
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@ahhhhhhmybrain Is she recieving any help for herself? And are you recieving help for you?
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@sorryitsemmy Im going to therapy yes. I told her if she was wanting to go to therapy. she followed with, “no my parents will think im crazy” it took her a while, and i understand that theres a stigma about it i didnt judge her for thinking it was weird. But i dont think she ever followed through with it
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@ahhhhhhmybrain Okay, im in a similar situation. Except im on the opposite end of this. My medication I was on changed me completely and I mistreated someone I was with. We havent spoken much this month. Im actively seeking help and I have been for months. It is this girl’s choice to decide whether she wants to better herself and whether she’s willing. Reach out if you want, see if anything has changed. If not, decide the best course of action and focus on what would be best for you and your progress! Its possible for people to grow together, its a matter of whether each person is willing
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@sorryitsemmy Thank you. I hope everything is okay for you too. Just lmk if you need to talk
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@ahhhhhhmybrain Its no problem at all. I hope this clears up for you and you’re able to progress. You got this! Let me know also if you want to talk, I always love to
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Okay. If you’re Comfortable with it you can follow my ig: @unemployedcowboy
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Dope, okay!!
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Was I a bad person before this life and is God punishing me. Sometimes I think I have a reverse punishment. Like God knew I'd be a horrible adult so that's why I was abused as a kid. I wasn't horribly abused but I didn't really realize I was until my psychiatrist told me I was. I hate myself
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When I was 5, I met my best friend in kindergarten. Ever since, she had not really been allowing me to hang out with other kids because she wanted me all for herself, which I thought was cute at the time, but then she also began completely leaving me for another friend whom she'd become obsessed eith, and when she got bored of them, she'd then come back to me. Many times she's insult me, but if I ever dared say she's even doing something wrong she'd get mad. I always had to do what she wanted, and every time I said no and wanted to do something she'd barge into my bedroom (because this was mostly in my house when we used to play), slam the door, and throw things at me when I came in to talk. Once, I found a horseshoe (I can't remember if I was with her or if I told her about it?) but anyways I was the one who found it, and she demanded I give it to her. I told her no because I loved it and wanted it and I found it, and she told me that if I didn't give it to her she would h**ng me with it. I didn't even know what that meant but I knew it meant something terrifying. I also began developing OCD around 8 and she and basically everyone made fun of me because I had a lot of physical compulsions and they reanacted my compulsions, and for that I always felt stupid and weird. I began to hide my compulsions, only doing them when no one was watching or when I was alone. I normalised it all by the time I turned 13, but my relationship had gotten so bad with her that I was actually absolutely terrified of going to her house to hang out, and for her birthday, she invited me out with another friend she hung out with. They ONLY spoke about things they were interested in like books and that's fine, but they knew that I wasn't interested in that stuff at all and asked me "Why don't you talk?" Like always, I felt left out because the only time my ex bsf spoke to me was when she embarrassed me in front of the other friend. Anyways I couldn't take it anymore that summer and stopped talking to her because I just couldn't do it anymore. Thoughout those years (and now still) I've been using Maladaptive Daydreaming SEVERELY every day to cope. I remember it reached the point where I would be actually talking to them in my head, like using my tongue to talk as if I was speaking physically but not opening my mouth or letting out any noise so nobody thinks I'm weird if that makes any sense, and I'd just be listening to music ALL day and pace for hours and hell, my OCD began targeting my MD, which was LITERALLY the thing my brain was using in order to protect my brain from loneliness AND OCD which os crazy lol, but I feel so stupid because I feel like with the MD i should've just sucked it up and changed fandoms instead of letting my OCD keep targeting the characters of the fandom I was Daydreaming to, even though I would spend days feeling physically hot, head and thoughts spinning, overanalyzing the game I daydreamed to over and over again to make sure that the character I roleplayed as was loved by the other characters that brought me comfort. I was so obsessed with the characters and the Daydreaming that it probably became the only thing that made me feel genuinely understood and loved and they were in my very own head! Does what happened even count as trauma lol? It feels kinda stupid cus it was just a childhood friend being a kid like yea sure she was toxic, but I never hated her. My parents loathe her because of this, but I feel like I'm just over exaggerating everything and don't want to be saying that this girl has traumatised me because I don't want to be blaming someone for something severe.
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Do yall ever reread old texts from a toxic ex and try and “solve” stuff constantly? We ended things 4 months ago and every day I go through old texts trying to prove I wasn’t the bad one, make SURE she was toxic, “solve” a random toxic moment I remember and make sure I have ALL the details remembered accurately and that I’m not misremembering it. It’s like im still living in the relationship. It’s draining and will not stop. Is this an OCD thing? How is it fixed?
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