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I cried so much for weeks. It’s ok to cry it will make you feel better. I cried and broke down atleast a dozen times with my therapist and she was nothing but helpful in those times
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I thought on writing a letter and taking it with me, because when I cry, I can't barely talk ? the only person who knows about my hocd is my boyfriend because I can't tell anyone else. Do you also have hocd?
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@Itsme That’s a great idea. Eventually you won’t cry and that’s ok too. It’s so difficult when beginning recovery and I know you can do it. All of us are stronger than we know. I don’t have hocd but I deal/dealt with damn near every other theme you can think of so I choose to just call it ocd now. Themes stopped mattering when my brain didn’t stick to one.
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@lulu23 I also had some other ocd themes, the worst ones were about my father's death and washing hands. But this one I'm dealing now is so hard because it seems very real
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It’s fine to cry! I have HOCD and I cried when telling my therapist about what’s going on with me, and I cry during most exposures.
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How is it going with the therapist? I have an appointment next week and I'm so nervous because I've been having hocd for 3 years already
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@Itsme I see an OCD specialist, and I think it’s going ok. It’s been 4 months, and I’m not totally better, but I’ve improved. Things are hard now, but deep down, I have hope.
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@ginac Yes don't lose your hope ?? it's terrible to think about ocd and how much time you waste with it. Are you taking any medication?
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@Itsme Nope, no medication. I’d be open to it if i majorly relapsed, or was having a hard time functioning, though.
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@ginac I hope I won't need medication as well...
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@Itsme It’s ok if you do! It’s not so bad, I’ve taken it before.
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I haven’t talked about it once without crying
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Me too!!
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@Itsme How do you handle it with being in a relationship? I feel so much guilt with my bf and so much FEAR that I’ll leave him for a girl or hurt him or something or lose feelings for him
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@Ocdandme123 Well, it was REALLY hard sometimes!! The first time I told him was 2 years ago because I couldn't handle my tears anymore, it was one of those days that you can't even talk without wanting to cry so I just had to. There are some days in which I feel terrible because I feel like I'm not being honest and that there's this thing that doesn't allow me to be happy. It pisses me off because I know I love him, and altought I'm with him, I still feel attraction to other men lol. But then I have this idea of hocd in which I also get a very weird feeling with girls, but not the same one I get with boys, because when I think of me with a girl it's so disturbing, I get very anxious and uncomfortable... I know I don't want a woman, I just see women as friends, but why can't my mind shut down?!
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@Itsme I’ve been with my bf for a year today actually and I told him over 3 months ago right when it came on to me cuz I was absolutely sickly depressed. And I feel the same. I’m scared I’m not truly happy or I’m lying to myself and trying to force myself to be with him or a guy in general. I feel so weird around girls now cuz it’s like all I notice and the groinal s suck and intrusive thoughts of being with girls (especially during sex) mind fuck me so bad. Cuz I’m like I don’t think I’d want to be with a girl but WHAT IF I do and I’m just lying to myself. False attraction and feelings is so tough for me. It feels so damn real for me. It’s really tough that’s for sure
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@Ocdandme123 Aww congrats for the anniversary ? yess same, I can relate, it's very disturbing to have the thoughts during sex... I was convinced that my depression and anxiety would be due to my birth pills so I quit it for months and nothing changed ??♀️ but with me it was the same as you, my hocd also started just some months after I started dating my bf. How did yours start?
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@Itsme Oh man. A couple things happened. Basically, a couple months before it hit full force, I had been seeing just you know random lesbian couples on my ig timeline and one of them was really pretty so I was like huh wow interesting and stalked her page and came across her coming out story which was her dating her bf of 5 years and then just left him for girls and the comments on it were a bunch of girls saying they left their husbands and boyfriends and o was just instantly scared and started looking into more lesbian couples trying to find their coming out stories on ig. And then a little after that, I had my coworkers ex bf make a joke about how he think we’d be lesbian together and it made me uncomfortable and then I had my friend stay over and I had the thought hm I wonder if I could be okay with a girl being in my bed. And the next day after that, I went and got laser hair removal done on my vagina and it was a girl and I got so sweaty and anxious and just bam the thought wtf am I gay camenin and has not left and it’s been hell since. And my coworker is the biggest trigger I have and I have thoughts about if I actually could be with her and would I want that blah blah and I HATE IT. It feels fucking real sometimes like it’s a real crush or something. My intrusive thoughts suck. I have ocd about my relationship cuz I’m so worried and cry all the time trying to figure out what these thoughts mean and if I really am gay and I’m just in denial or if this is just a fucked up crisis. I truly can not tell and it’s terrifying. I want a family and a husband. I have always thought girls were pretty, hot, boobs are pretty cool. Ya know all that stuff. I admire women and their beauty and their bodies. But never did I think I could be with one in a lesbian way before all of this and it’s just pure anxiety. I think I cry everyday. Haha sorry that’s long. Basically it was a bunch of little things that led up to the point of the thought just setting in my brain out of nowhere. What about you?
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@Ocdandme123 Ahhh we talked before, I remember your story ?? for me it was when I discovered that a friend of mine was bi and I thought "how do you know you like both genders?" grrrr Well I'm super affraid of those coming out stories as well because a girl that used to be my friend also had a boyfriend for years, she always liked boys (we used to talk about boys we liked) and now she has a girlfriend. And then I also had a girl at my school that her father was gay, after being married, having kids, etc.... These things drive me crazy. I know I feel attracted to boys and like them, but then these thoughts ruin my life. I can never tell if it's a real crush or attraction or if it's me being affraid. ? Besides, as you said, I also think about getting married and being a mum. One day I was freaking out thinking "what if I accidentally get pregnant now?" because I could never get a child with this thoughts ??? It's very sad because I feel others think that I have a perfect life but deep down I feel shit
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@Itsme My thoughts are so strong that sometimes I have the thought "you're attracted to her" without even seeing the person face, just the overall shape ? I can't be in a place without having a thought with at least one person and you? How does it happen to you?
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Yeah I get watery eyes just thinking about telling people about my hocd. It's cause we suffer in silence for so long that when we try to talk about all that shows is that pain that we buried.
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Yessss suffer in silence is the wright way to define it!! And don't you also get the idea of how time makes it worse? For example "it's been three years and how am I telling people that I've been depressed all these years and looked happy?"
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@Itsme I can completely relate when I tell my girlfriend how bad it's been she's in complete shock cause she can never tell how upset I am.
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@Reclaimer Same with my boyfriend, he doesn't realize that the thoughts are on my head every minute. It's a very sensitive topic
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1) it's ok to cry. Therapists are totally used to it. 2) maybe it would be easier to write our what you want to tell the therapist. You can read it out loud, or just share the paper
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Maybe I'll write, just in case I can't talk ?? thank you
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I've had hocd for 6 years and I still have days where I feel like crying
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I can imagine ? have you seen any therapist since then?
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Yes I've seen a therapist and did erp with him I know all the techniques I still have hard days tho
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I cant do anything anymore without my brain dregdging up proof from my past that I was actually trans and didn't know it, and it all seems so plausible. like I said in my last post its unearthing memories that I didn't even know I have. ik this is just ocd tricking me but I feel like I need to review every moment thoroughly bc I have questioned my gender in the past but always concluded that'd I'd happier as a girl (which is true). everything feels so real and it feels like I am just super in denial. also, how do I tell people about this? I made the mistake of confessing to a teacher on a note and only a couple friends of mine understand the thoughts I get, but I don't tell them everything. however its very hard for me to do basic responsibilities like school work and I always end up overwhelmed, so I'm thinking I may need accomdations. I need to get in touch with my counselor but i'm unsure how to explain all of this to her, being that I don't have a diagnosis....also I feel like I can't talk about this with the majority of my friends because gender ocd is rare to have (increasing my doubts) and, at least school-wise, i'm in very accepting environment for lgbtq and I'm afraid they're just gonna tell me to accept myself. I'm scared of doing erp for this because what if I like it (also cant afford therapy). ive also felt very apprehensive around some of my trans friends and classmates because my brain is going crazy asking "what if you're like them?" and I feel so bad and transphobic for these thoughts. i'm genuinely so tired. one of my closest friends died last year, but my father pointed out that my recent mood has been even worse than it was during that time. i tend to bottle up my emotions a lot, so everyone's just telling me to "let it go" and tell people, but if I do that I feel like i'll end up confessing. i'm so tired and lost.
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Hi,im a fourteen years old girl. I live in a homophobic country,and i dont have any experience. I grew up and became homophobic just like my family and my religion.but in 13 year old.i was questioning why lgptq is illegal?while they are just being them and can’t select what they are? So..i became an agnostic or atheist by secret.oh,by addition,before i became atheist i was making sure i don’t like women,like looking at women pics and imagine some romantic or sexual senarios just to find out,(and i wasnt feel anything and didnt like them),and i was happy and comfort for being straight (i was liking fictional men and some actors,within experience except an online male friend i liked but we didn’t date).but after being atheist,its like fire,i start developing HOCD,im not officially have that because I can’t have a therapist,but i have the Symptoms 100%. I didnt know whats hocd ,i find out whats it before a month.when i was struggling with it like 7 months,so,i think it started when i was in very close friendship with a girl in school,i was confused.if i liked her or not,i was imagining,questioning,making scenarios,but i couldnt have an answer,but then i was comfort to keep it just friendship.when the questions about her go,i can see her normally as a friend and i dont think of her or text her every day and it sometimes reaches months in summer holidays and its normally to me,no romantic acts about her,but then i had a new friend to the group and i had the same thoughts and questions to her.and now my brain questioning if i like them both😢.ok.this gone.this is before year,before being atheist.after being.i was questioning “do i like women?” Or when i see a fictional woman,i start to look at her and questioning myself and try to catch any feeling,i swear i would accept myself to be gay or bisexual,but i just can’t feel or accept that..i feel like burn.i cried and cried.it somedays turns so hard that I can’t even study or live normally.i also started to lose my attraction to men.i feel like its gone,I can’t now imagine being a man without getting uncomfortable,i miss the days when i was enjoying imagining kissing and sexing with a man.but,hocd,always reminds me i have no experience,and its all imaginary,so I don’t have a real clue from beginning that im straight.and i also read an girl experience with hocd and she became a lesbian at the end,i get so scary.it feels so real.i just wanna cry forever.im afraid that i will like a girl in the future,it chock me and burns.i hate this feeling.to thr god i dont know or believe in,please,if i like women,just let me feel it normally without this fear and hurting.i dont want to be gay.i dont want to like women.i dont want to be bisexual or lesbian.but if being any of those but comfort without this feeling that makes me wanna suicide.i would accept,please.just please,i even can’t get a therapist,even online,i just want help.please.i dont want to be like those girls that find out they liked women all the time,im scared,i miss my old feelings and trusting.i hate this.i just want to die if its mean hocd to go.i feel like its so real and i will love a girl no way in hell future.i even feel its not wrong to like women,like its much better and more soft that men,but i just can’t.I can’t.i dont know,i did everything.i gave myself permission to find out or explore my attraction to the both genders but it hurts me more.i dont want to get hurts again anymore.just remembering i have no experience or clue i like men even if in past felt like i would like and date a man and liven with him,i keep reminding its all was Based on imagination…even if i was wishing to love a man,hocd ruined this peaceful feeling,i was really find peaceful of loving a man.but now,i don’t feel like before,and this scares me,i don’t know what to do.I can’t have a therapist,and dont even know how to get better,,,
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17f So I don't have an official diagnosis, but I know I have it, I struggle with it since I was 4, I went through like almost every theme like contamination, symmetry, checking, existential, health anxiety, false memory, moral ocd, sexual ocds, and also a therapist told me I have it (another one said I have generalized anxiety disorder but idk like I was talking about textbook ocd to her) I don't have a therapist now therapy is not working out well for me but I was hoping to maybe get medication For me the absolute hell is POCD and real event ocd. I genuinely don't know how do I start. I also think I will replace POCD with harm ocd cause well I'm to scared to talk about POCD. But what do I even say like do I come in and talk about more obvious ocd stuff I experience and then randomly jump to POCD, seems like a crazy jump idk... Also I thought it will be in the evening and I will have time to prepare but it's in and hour and a half I'm terrified Anyone? Help? How do I start what do I say I'm so scared
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