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Often OCD urges us to think I. Black-and-white or either-or terms. The reality is almost always in the middle. You have SOME control. Not no control, and not total control. Leverage the control you have to make your life closer to how you want it to be (with the understanding that life will always be somewhat how we want it and somewhat how we don't)
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You are worth it. You have purpose in this life
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But, whats the point of living if Ihave no control on myself?
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@Confundida Because you are special! And people care about you. and you have a purpose in this world
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@Confundida people do not really have that much control on themselves, they think they do but in reality we can't control our thoughts and feelings, we can control how we behave but that is heavily influenced by our feelings the problem is we try to control so bad, the more we focus on our unwanted thoughts or behaviors the more helpless we feel how other people cope is they do not try to control as much as we do and because of that they are not experiencing our anxiety
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As I’ve heard from others who don’t have ocd: the reality is, no one has control over anything. That’s kinda and kinda not completely accurate but I hope you get my point. When I was suicidal I spoke with my cousin who had been this way in the past too. He said to me, if you’re gonna stay, you might as well do what you want to do in life. I share that with you within reason of course, meaning you’re not going to be destructive in what you want out of life. Also, another friend shared a YouTube video with me about a guy who tried to commit suicide at a commonly used site, and survived. He also had a mental health condition. And he said that during the moment of the act, he felt regret. He researched and found that all suicide survivors of that same site experienced the same feeling of regret in the moment. That story kept me going, plus people who love me that I don’t want to hurt, plus reality is I don’t know the other side and that’s a permanent decision that I wasn’t too eager to make. And lastly, although I’ve left Christianity, when it would get really bad, I told the suicide demon to get off of me, and it would. But, also consider that how you interpret things may be part of why it’s so rough for you right now. I can be a very pessimistic thinker, and didn’t figure that out until just about 3 years ago. So I would encourage you to open up to a therapist about how you mentally react and think about things that happen in your life. A good therapist can point it out to you. Lastly, being suicidal can be chemically based. So meds, nutrition, homeopathy, hormonal and neurotransmitter balancing, and herbs may be something worthwhile looking into. And consider calling a suicide hotline. 1-800-273-8255 that’s the national suicide prevention, they also have an online chat feature.
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Also, consider that many people with ocd really want a guarantee, and really don’t like uncertainty. You feeling like you have lack of control could be feeling worse to you because of a heightened desire for control in general...maybe. When I learned I had a way of thinking, that not everyone shared, and that I wasn’t right all the time, that not everything I thought in my head was true, it lightened my load a bit. I even questioned why most people tend to stay in life despite all its hardships, and I guessed it was because their brains think differently than mine. That also helped me to hold on. Because it showed me there was some discrepancy in my thinking that perhaps could be helped. The natural remedies I’ve mentioned, I’ve also experimented with, and they helped balance me back out a bit when the ocd was wearing me out. And consider temporary in-patient/residential ocd clinics if it’s really debilitating to your life.
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- 21w ago
I haven't been officially diagnosed with OCD but when I learned more about it, I never related to anything more. A little back story: when I was younger, there were a couple of youth suicides in my area and the schools felt the need to have someone come in and talk about suicide. Well the person they had come in did a horrible job teaching it and basically made it seem like the smallest negative emotion or feeling or change in behavior made you suicidal. This ended up scaring me so much that I got horrid anxiety. Fast forward to now, Everytime I feel anxiety and panic, I fear I'm going to kill myself. Everytime I feel down and depressed, I fear I'll end it all. I'm scared to be around anything sharp because the "What if" I hurt myself comes into my mind. There are always intrusive thoughts at almost every point of the day. And it's not only for me. Everytime I hear someone being negative, I fear they will be suicidal. I know in my heart that none of this is true but it's terrifying me that it's stuck around so much that it makes me scared that maybe it is true. I've had a lot of death in my family in the past year and a half and a lot of other family drama that I'd never had before that is now also bringing up existential intrusive thoughts. And I'd never questioned anything about life before but now I get the "why is life like this?" and "does anything we do matter?" and I hate it. I don't want to think like that. I just want to go through life being able to handle things normally again. It terrifies me even right now going "what if you give up?"
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- 14w ago
Does anybody else get the indescribable urge to cut yourself, you don’t want to but you feel like you have too.
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- 12w ago
I have the thought of what if I lose control and do something out of my control like scream for no reason or yelling in a store or just blurting stuff out that’s not in my control and it causes so much anxiety and causes me to feel weird. I always think I’m on the edge of losing control of myself and it’s exhausting living like this. Any tips?
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