Trigger warning questions about sex / ROCD please help ? ⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️ I’m always analysing and worried about what makes me horny before I have sex with my girlfriend. I’m scared that I thought about a girl ‘ prettier ‘ and I feel bad about it. I love my girlfriend so much and I’m scared that I will be so anxious that I will tell her everything and hurt her feelings. Also I dont masturbate when I want too because I’m scared of what made me horny. If it’s another girl I find pretty I ask myself is she prettier than my girlfriend? Than I feel like a horrible person. Since I’m so scared of thinking of others girls during sex, of course thats what I think about... like saying DONT THINK ABOUT A PINK BEAR, automatically thinks about a pink bear Can someone help me? This is difficult on my personnal sex life, I wish I could enjoy sex and masturbation as much as I did before OCD Thank you for your help! CalmRiver

Your ocd is making you think things you don’t really think. And if you think of someone else during sex that is “prettier” it doesn’t mean you love your girlfriend any less. It would be different if you didn’t have this mental disease and were thinking these things during sex. However you do have it and it isn’t something you can control just like the thoughts you can’t control. Easier said than done but every time you’re making love to your girlfriend and you think of someone else don’t push it away, let the thought of someone else into your mind. It may not work right away, or maybe it will immediately, but eventually for sure the thoughts will stay in your mind for only a few seconds at a time. They will continue to come they probably will never stop completely but it will get to a point where they’re like feathers fluttering across your brain, you ignore them and they leave. Believe it or not that is the kind (where it leaves as quickly as it comes) of intrusive thoughts EVERYONE HAS. Ocd stops us from letting them go. We hold onto them because of worry that we are “bad”. You can discuss this with your girlfriend if you want to, depending on how open minded she is of understanding this sort of disease. However if you don’t think she’s going to understand don’t bring it up, because you’re not hiding anything, you’re doing nothing wrong. Maybe in time she will understand, if not maybe you should find someone else because your ocd will be a lifelong struggle and you need someone to support you throughout your life. Best of luck ?

Thank you so much. Sorry for the short answer, I’m at work right now but I will make sure to re read what you told me! This really helps. There is hope ? My girlfriend is really supportive of my OCD, I’m really lucky

Yeah if you can maybe try to discuss it with her? But I know that’s hard:( watch the ROCD video on intrusivethoughts.org if you haven’t (click the relationship section of the website) because it talks about this exact issue and how to deal with it. Good luck!!

@Kinzey thank you! I will definetly take a look at that website