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- 6y
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- 6y
Yes break ups can be so hard to begin with, but for those of us with OCD it can be even more difficult, I am so sorry you're going through this. Rumination is a big issue of mine with OCD and breakups and I play conversations and the break up over again in my head or out loud to be "sure" how things happened. All I can say is, is you do this kind of ruminating too, then try your best to catch yourself and realize what you're doing and say "oh hi OCD! Caught you" and find something else to distract you and get you off of it- for at least a few seconds or minutes. Stay strong!
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- 6y
Break ups can be so hard, and with OCD it makes it harder because of the change in routine. Let yourself feel hurt and scared and anything else you feel, but don’t let it control you. Some tips for stress could be meditation, walking, taking up a new hobby, and drinking chamomile tea. I’ve recently started having a cup of chamomile tea before bed every night and I can actually feel it warm up and calm my body. Try to find the positives in the break up, I know that seems so impossible! But give yourself some time to heal, and then look for positives. The relationship wasn’t working with this guy, but that just brings you one step closer to finding where you truly belong.
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- 6y
Yes— drink water, eat bread. It’s dull enough to not upset your stomach but gives you just enough to keep going. Avoid caffeine and alcohol. And the biggest one for me: yoga. Specifically finding a “yoga with Adrienne” session on YouTube that sounds like it will make me feel better- they always do. The stretching is like a massage on your body in all the places you hold on to the hurt. Feel better ?
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- 6y
The water and bread is more a suggestion if you lost your appetite, which is what I’m dealing with and I’m pretty sure I’m in the pre-realizing you need to break up- phase of my 2 yr relationship. Or it’s ROCD. No clue. But can’t eat.
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- 6y
Im sorry you’re feeling that. I think the true meaning of your feelings usually becomes known at some point- it helped me to think about what I wanted from a relationship, and if my partner was giving me those things or at least was willing to change.
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- 20w
Hi - I’ve made a series of posts about my situation over the past few weeks. My bf asked to take a break from our relationship through text the first week of April. We haven’t spoken since. There’s a lot of outward details to this but I’ll try to keep it as simple as possible. My ocd is telling me the worst of the worst. He left me with full uncertainty because he didn’t give me a reason, and his decision felt like it happened overnight and I’m still so confused. He’s never been in a relationship as serious as this before. I’m incredibly hurt and angry, and my emotions get worse on Saturday and Friday nights because that’s when his frat parties happen. I do ERP phrases but my stomach hurts and it’s churning so bad. I deactivated/deleted social media apps for now because it’s too much. I just wish this physical feeling would stop. Does anyone have tips?
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- 15w
My ex best friend started dating my ex boyfriend. And me and the boy are in the same church so this is awkward. My heart is broken, not because he’s with someone else but the fact that it’s with her. I look back at every moment the three of us spent together and just wondering if they liked each other when me and him were together. I’ve lost all self respect, I keep stalking them on social media and I’m so mad at myself because I know that I’m letting them hurt me more but I can’t help it. I also still have my ex bsf location and I checked it today and saw that she was at my ex bf’s little brother’s baseball game, this hurt because me and him used to do that together, also me and his family are still close because of church so I have a soft spot in my heart for his little brother. I just feel like my whole world is upside down, I’m so confused. I’m trying so hard not to resent them, I try and remind myself that they are still God’s children. But I still find myself full of bitterness. I’ve been processing everything for about a month and I have tried tons of things to heal: put all of the items he gave me in a box, go to a rage room, visit the temple, journal, pray. Each of these things have helped a ton, but I still have a lot of pain. I know that this is all part of God’s plan but it’s still painful, I just need to remember that this pain is temporary and will help me grow as a person. I just wanted to share this and maybe get some advice on how to heal from a broken heart. I know this isn’t really OCD related but I just really needed to share this.
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- 14w
Does anyone have advice for dealing with a breakup. This hurts so bad and my brain is torturing me. OCD makes it so much worse. It’s been a month already. I need to start letting go but can’t stop. Any advice for letting things go .. ?
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