Can someone help me a bit? Is it weird for someone who identified straight for most of their life had a crush on a fictional female androgynous character from a cartoon? She was the only girl I ever had an actual crush on. I'm feeling so out of place and I feel very gay. It feels very real and I can't fucking stand this at all. Idk what to do about this. I'm anxious, my heart is racing at the thought of her, imagining stuff feels good too. All things I've experienced mostly with boys but now I feel gay like maybe I was never attracted to boys at all. I'm so sorry that this had been my obsession for the past few posts but I can't somehow deal with this

Ibg

Date posted: 5y

Have your tried the SOS feature on here? Really lean into that, and the uncertainty you have to sit with. Also, (a little reassurance here) you can keep in mind that most “straight” people have had some sexual feelings for people of the same sex. Nobody is actually certain about the sexual identity. We just do the best we can. End of the day tho, OCD is not about content, so treat it according to ERP protocol and you’ll get better.

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

One thing I didn't a really mention is that before HOCD I was pretty sure I wasn't completely straight but since I had no experience with same sex attraction other than this I identified straight. But ive been doing what you told for a while now and it's kind of ok right now

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

But now I really just wanna stay straight but at the same time have bi/heteroflexible tendencies. But I never wished to act on them :(

Ibg

Date posted: 5y

@chamomile Yep. It’s totally possible to identify as straight but have some other tendencies or fantasie or whatever. Sounds like you’re doing better.

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

@Ibg I guess so after speaking to some other members I just decided to sleep and I feel better. Though my thoughts aren't gone :)

Russ1989

Date posted: 5y

Whenever uncumfturble thoughts surface into your mind just immediately use the '"stop sign technique" just vision a stop sign and say it to yourself over and over again. Google search stop sign technique

sadieinez

Date posted: 5y

I hope I didnt trigger you with my posts. Deleted them. My sincerest apologies. ❤️

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

No I didn't even see your posts

Russ1989

Date posted: 5y

Whats your advice on how to deal with ocd when triggered by someone remind you of your ocd fears and relating same topics that relate to your ocd fear ,, whats the best way to deal with ocd from a past real ocd event. How do i cope mentally when triggered?

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

@Russ1989 Who are you asking?

Russ1989

Date posted: 5y

@chamomile Im asking you for advice please ,, you post didnt trigger me its my mom reminding me of a past event that triggered my ocd felated to the real event memory that ocd attached to

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

@Russ1989 Oh I see. Well don't worry about it :) my mother does it to me too sadly :(. Try taking long deep breaths, I've seen them help when I have panic attacks. Also try practicing ERP, just sit calm and try to be with your intrusive thoughts. That's pretty much whatever I do. Idk if it'll help you but I really hope it does :)

Russ1989

Date posted: 5y

@chamomile Thanks i use the stop sign technique. Please google search stop sign technique please let me know what u think about it

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

@Russ1989 Well I tried it for a bit and it helped me thanks for telling me about it :)

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