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hey! I have rocd too. It really sucks. I think the best exposure is staying in the relationship. Let it run its course. I've been working (for around 3 months now) to let go of the questions i would ruminate over. It's not easy by any stretch, but ultimately there are no answers. Meditation and living in the moment, learning to recognize the "spiral" of OCD thoughts, and simply staying in the relationship and putting in the work have all helped me. The article, "i think it moved" by Steven Phillipson is a really good resource.
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- 5y
Great article. Very knowledgeable clinician. Horrible experience at his clinic.
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Same!! Just know that choosing to stay dedicated to your partner and treating this for what it is - OCD - is the best thing you can do. I broke up with my partner this summer because of ROCD (before I knew what it was) and it actually just made the obsession even worse, because I couldn’t understand why I had ended things and why I wasn’t getting the relief I thought I would. So hang in there, because that’s the best thing you can do to fight this!!
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I have it. I have excessive doubt in relationship. It really really sucks. I am too afraid to get to a stage in therapy well I will be exposed to ROCD obsessions.
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- 7y
I have ROCD too, I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years but HOCD has come up more. It totally sucks.
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How long have you been in your relationship?
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I have it too :(
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Same here! It’s so annoying, it’s the start of my relationship ship so those thoughts are really present rn it sucks
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Same here! Almost 9 months of intrusive thoughts and dominating all day every day. But it’s a lot more manageable than before! The frequency hasn’t changed but I’m able to work past them easier. I’m still struggling bad but we will all get there! Keep in mind every experience is different, don’t feel worried that yours isn’t the same as mine. That’s something I ruminated over a lot xx
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- 7y
I worry because sometimes I see a guy and at times want him more than my boyfriend - not because of the intimacy, but just because it’s something different.
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- 7y
Hi I have it too! Ur amongst friends! B strong
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I feel physically crippled by it! Don’t worry, there are so many people who know what you’re feeling
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I have it too, didn’t know it was an ocd thing before this app
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- 18w
My best friend hasn’t spoken to me in months. It triggered some symptoms that I now realize fall along the lines of ROCD. It’s making me behave in a way that chased my other friends away. I’m feeling very hopeless and guilty.
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I just got out of a 4 year relationship that ended around the beginning of February. In the beginning of the 4 year relationship I had intrusive thoughts about the way I was behaving around my partner, this went on for a few months not knowing what it was or that it was ROCD. I remember it was bad and did not want to deal with what I was feeling. I defeated it and was ok for the first 3 years after that. But it just made me feel like I wasn’t being my true, authentic , funny self I wanted to be for my partner. It was horrible. Now I’m in a new relationship that has been awesome as far as the beginning goes but now I’m back to that intrusive thought and ROCD. Irs to the point where I feel like I can’t be myself and I’m not happy or excited about anything anymore I’m constantly stressed out thinking about it.
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I’ve dealt with ocd themes for as long as I can remember, POCD, HOCD, false memory, the feelings of having to confess something, washing certain body parts a specific amount of times, all of it I am still pretty young and I just got into my first relationship. I always knew ROCD existed I just never had the chance to have an experience with it 😭 and here I am. I really do think I have an anxious attachment style. But it’s also like I constantly worry if I’m too much or if i should not be in a relationship or if I rlly love my partner like I tell him. I am sensitive and very communicative so when things bother me I like to communicate them but then I worry that I do too much or I worry that it isn’t normal to find this many things wrong so early in a relationship. I also worry if he doesn’t like me or if he Will get tired of me, but those thoughts are easier to get by. The hard thoughts r the ones where I doubt my feelings for him. My mind feels like a MESS! And it’s harder because we only see eachother once a week. This may be heaven compared to other ppl who struggle with real long distance but for me the time in between gives me a lot of time to nitpick things that aren’t even real problems and create a sense of a toxic relationship that isn’t even real! The only times where I feel like maybe it’s all in my head are when. I see him and the days after, but when it gets long it gets rlly hard. I rlly do love him and he gives me reassurance when needed but I can’t help but focus on the negatives when little things bother me, especially when we are apart from eachother and jsut texting. Texting is hard because then there is the obsession over waiting to see how long he will take, not knowing the tone of texts, and being able to over analyze every conversation we’ve had. I also do mental checks to help me reassure myself that I love him 😭 like when’s the last time he made me laugh, what are some nice things he’s done that I rlly liked, and jsut trying to actively acknowledge everything he’s done so I can stop panicking abt the fear that I don’t love him. It’s literally only been 2 months of us dating so the fact my ocd is so early onset annoys me so bad because I rlly do feel like I am still in the crucial stages of a relationship where we are learning how to love eachother, so there should be some ups and downs and minor arguments while we get over this phase… but I can’t help but wonder what if these little things just mean I hate him? It’s extreme but I worry and the reels and tik toks I see about people realizing they don’t love their partner make it all bad!
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