Can someone have one crush on a girl and not be lesbian or bisexual

Do u think it’s admiration even if I was obsessed and would stalk her page also how did u know u were asexual

@hiiiii You’re right, obsession is probably the best word to use here. However, my statement still stands. There’s nothing wrong about being into someone. I learned I was asexual a few months after my girlfriend broke up with me. I found that I didn’t really like sex. Add to that how little I think about sex and you got yourself an asexual.

@twicedouble Okay cause I have experienced ocd with asexuality but one day I want to have sex so I don’t think I am but yeah I think it’s an obsession because I always think about this

@hiiiii Asexuality is a tricky concept. Most of us in the community use it as an umbrella term for various types of asexuality just like there are types of OCD. You can want to have sex and still be asexual. Ultimately it’s up to you. If you have similar feelings to other aces, you might consider yourself asexual. But if you don’t want to call yourself that, don’t. I find labeling myself helps me feel like a part of something bigger.

@twicedouble Yeah I used to have this asexuality theme and I was concerned because I have sexual attraction but sometimes or lately it’s quite mild or doesn’t last long which scares me

@hiiiii What scares you?

@twicedouble I don’t really know i think it could be the thought of not being attracted to people sexually , and not being able to experience makes me sad

@hiiiii See my comment on your other post.

I’ve had extremely powerful feelings towards men and it is no where near that.

@sadieinez Okay hi I have HOCD and I’m also a vurgun 16 and barely had a sexual talk with a guy I also go to an all girls school I just remember this girl that I was obsessed with but I wanted to look like her and be her and be her friend I saw her at a cheer comp I didn’t even know her but it was strong my mum thinks it was admiration which I hope it is because I really don’t want to be bisexual or lesbian

@hiiiii Same girl and for me it’s sound like admiration. I also have hocd too

@Asnku Yeha I hate it this happened before my ocd struck like I had other girls I admired aswell like lowkey obsessions and I’m scared they were crushes to I hope not ughh

@hiiiii When you frame it like that, I have totally experienced that when I was a teenager. Im in my mid 20’s now, but have memories of a couple of girls whom I felt were the girls I had always wanted to be. I went to public school so often times these girls were friends with boys I had massive crushes on and I realized much of my “admiration” of them was simply my own insecurity and refusual to accept myself as I was. I wanted so desperately to be something I wasn’t. Maybe looking at it like that might help to desconstruct it and give those intrusive thoughts less ammo. When you gave a genuine “crush”, it is soooo undeniable. I reminice on boys I was in love with so fondly, it would feel as sweet for you. If its not like that, it probably isn’t a crush. Your thinking so much about this girl could actually be your observing her or creating a narrative in your head of what the perfect girl is/or should be and you could be trying to replicate or learn from her because you want to be “like” her, not “with” her.

I really wanted to look like her

@hiiiii If you just want to look like her it's not crush or it doesn't mean you are lesbian

@saj Hope so but I was like obsessed and I wanted to look like her and be her friend