Hello everyone, so I'm slowly starting to get better in regards to dating. My ex and me broke up cause I just ran away and he had issues too, but he loves me and I love him so we are currently fwb. The issue I'm having is that ever since we dated or I'm trying to get close again; my brain brings up my old ex a lot or another ex. I was wondering if anyone has ever had their OCD use thoughts like mentioning the old ex's name or something against them?

Thank god I am not the only one! Like I know for a fact I do not wish to be back with any of my ex's it frustrates me!

I can relate

Though our circumstances are different, I hope for the best and that your OCD quiets down though it is very hard

@ChrisWu I wish and hope the same to you

Maybe it's constructive criticism based on experience? Perhaps she has regrets and wants to steer others away from her path?

@Jasm1h I don't think I understand what you mean, could you explain a bit more thoroughly for a German ?

Best way to deal with your RJ: attribute it to your OCD, the chemical imbalance in your brain. Just accept the highs and lows. Because deep down you know the past is irrelevant. It’s hard to fathom with. With constant meditation, exercise and pursuing other goals it will just ease. It will gradually subside, may never fully dissipate, but like any other mental illness it becomes easier to live with, handle and nurture.

@JoshJRS93 Thank you very much for your time to write that! I really appreciate it

@Ch13 It’s perfectly ok. I’m a sufferer with this condition and I’m in love with my girlfriend, and I mean seriously head over heals for her; but I struggle that she had a four year relationship before me, and the most irrational part about it is, she was a teenager during this period haha. I’m 27 and she’s 21. Yet my mind struggle to deal with it. It’s ridiculous, and extremely funny. I’m a guy who’s had a few past sexual partners and she’s only ever had the one guy. It becomes hypocritical to an extent. But the most important thing to do is, never question your partner or anything, remain vigilant to yourself and understand the past is history and the future is a mystery, there’s only the present moment that matters. And to understand the present moment is to recognise your disorder, it’s your brain, it is not you. Now enjoy your time, be in love and fully cherish it. Meditate! Can’t stress this enough! Look after yourself.

She definitely tells me that she was very naive in the past and regrets everything she did back then but my OCD likes to just not believe that and still pop up with disturbing images