notfortalk
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notfortalknotfortalk
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Plus like I fear being gay but kind of less. Like I don't like girls but my mind keeps obsessing over it. I'm really scared of this whole aro/ace thing. I hope it's just because I'm young and I have a hard time dealing with anxiety and low moods and hopefully one day when I'll be older and better everything will be alright
cvzxbcvzxb
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Some people need more feelings and emotional connection before that sexual attraction turns on. And if you're not already and you're able to I recommend seeing a therapist, you said you have been dealing with low moods and I think you might be needing more than just this app to help you right now. Personally I think therapists help ease the erp training so much.
notfortalknotfortalk
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My fear is not even feel emotions. I want to be emotionally and sexually attracted to men not women. And I'm pretty sure I feel nothing towards them but then why do my thoughts get so loud. And yes I get very sad and right now I'm going through a depressive episode. I hope it's because of this and nothing else. I really don't want to be asexual
mintycatsammintycatsam
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hi! im aromantic and on the ace spectrum! I'd be happy to help, but am not sure what you're asking here
notfortalknotfortalk
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Oh hi! :) I'm having a hard time soocd and today my mind was obsessing on whether or not I was aroace. Like right now a relationship is out of the question because of anxiety and depression. But a few weeks before my ocd spiked, I was like "oh yeah I'd really want a boyfriend and all that romantic things“ but now I'm worried because in the past I had crushes I think on a lot of guys who were older than me and I never spoke to, I never had a relationship either but I always fantasized. But however what I really want to know, is how do people know they are not sexually /romantically attracted to anyone? Because I now have this fear of never being able to be fully sexually and romantically attracted to a guy. Sometimes I have low libido but that mostly happens when I'm anxious or sad and I don't really know how to feel
mintycatsammintycatsam
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@notfortalk i know that im not romantically/sexually attracted to people bc i dont experience those emotions. ive never been romantically or sexually attracted to someone before, and do not see myself ever being in the future. if youve experienced romantic or sexual attraction frequently/repeatedly, its unlikely that youre aromantic or asexual. libido and asexuality arent interchangeable, since ace people can have libidos and allosexuals can have very low libidos.
notfortalknotfortalk
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@mintycatsam The things is my ocd is making me question whether I've ever felt romantically or sexually attracted to someone, but I like boys and to like them I have to be sexually attracted to them. I would totally have sex with the right guy or at least I hope so, and I also would like a romantic relationship. I always daydream about relationships but it's making me wonder whether it's real, and it's gonna happen or it's all in my head. I ofter long for a romantic relationship but I'm afraid I might not like it or the commitment
mintycatsammintycatsam
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@notfortalk it sounds like you desire romantic (and sexual) relationships with people, that youve specifically been attracted to before. that would be romantic/sexual attraction
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